25 Oct

Psychic meditation helps you to connect with your own truth

At times things can get a little heated and you may feel pressure from others to conform, fit into a mould, do as you’re told … How do you manage that kind of energy? Have you tried meditating yet?

When you sit down to meditate, you are entering a stress free zone that is entirely your own. You are your own boss in this space and no one gets to dictate anything to you here. Using visualisation tools you can also safely release any weighty or stressful energy that you may have picked up from others.

The time spent sitting in communication with your body, your Essence, your own answers and Source is time spent very wisely indeed. Namely, the more often you do this, the easier it becomes to get into a centered and meditative state at all times, including during times of duress. Meditation is indeed an invaluable tool to help you to quickly move through any unpleasant situations with all of your integrity intact.

The great thing about receiving intuitive guidance in your meditation space is that it comes from your own truth and does not have to be proved, explained or defended to anyone. You have full permission to clear any energy that says otherwise! Imagine living your life free from competition and from having to make sense to anyone – how fun and liberating!

Very often the Universe gives us lessons that require us to let go of having to ‘know’ where we’re heading, to let go of struggling and to simply trust. In those times the communication you may be receiving from Source may not make a whole lot of sense to your analytical mind. Indeed, if you were to keep on insisting that the communication fit into a specific mould, an expectation, then the result is that you will miss the true underlying message. It might not be what you expected, but is quite likely something even better! Trust in the infinite compassion of Source to know the most healing and loving solutions for everyone involved.

What may help you to quickly get into a space of clear communication with the God-of-Your-Heart and Source are the psychic tools. I’m not talking about external tools here such as oracle cards, a pendulum or a magic wand, but rather visualisation tools such as grounding, running energy and the rose image. These tools work entirely on visualisation and intention and can help you to access your own answers much more easily and effortlessly than otherwise. There are of course many other different and entirely valid ways to receive information, such as through feelings, sensations, just knowing, as a hunch or an instinct, but the truth is that visual images are the most accurate and the least biased.

Using your tools you will be easily able to release expectations and judgements from your space and receive clear communication from spirit for what it actually is.

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29 Aug

Soul age perspective

When people put pressure, expectations and demands on you based on their own limited perspective, you may end up feeling invalidated or unseen. The remedy here is to lovingly express your truths in order to take back your freedom.

It’s very easy for these situations to crop up around family where you may be expected to fulfill roles that you do not like or feel comfortable in. You may even still be carrying around old expectations from your parents even if you are no longer in contact with them – the pictures are still there. There’s no need to become defensive or to take anyone personally, because everyone are being and doing their best with where they currently are at in their own spiritual evolution and paths.

Spiritually speaking all of us have a different history of incarnations and different experience of living in physical bodies. The different ways of doing and seeing things are based on different soul age perspective.

Young souls learn through doing, competition, action, being better than others. They seek to dominate rather than co-operate. The third chakra is the most dominant chakra for them and the main lessons they are learning are around willpower and energy management.

Mature souls learn through deep emotions, drama, relationships, going deep within and creativity. The dominant chakra for them is the fourth chakra and the primary lesson they are learning has to do with self-love.

Old souls learn through teaching others, philosophy, spirituality, going deep, high and basically everywhere. The Old soul perspective has the capacity for unconditional love and is all-embracing at its best. the most dominant chakra for them is the fifth chakra and the primary lessons they are learning are around authentic self-expression.

The Mature soul can easily do the things the Young soul does if asked to do so, but would feel incomplete or insufficient. In the same way, the Old soul can do the things the Young souls do and the things the Mature souls do, but would feel unfulfilled and unhappy when not living up to their fullest potential.

Truth is, you have a unique role to play here on Earth and only you can truly know what it is. If you really want to make a difference around here, you need to take the time to still the noise within and around you, go within, meditate and commune with your Essence in order to find out what your true purpose is. Find out what you true soul age perspective is so you can give your highest and deepest gift to humanity.

If you are surrounded by others who are younger souls in soul age perspective, it is easy to feel invalidated and you may begin to try and match them at their level. Doing this may be easier since you will avoid condemnation and being seen as the weird one or the odd one out. However, the price you will pay is that you will feel unfulfilled and unhappy.

For example, Old souls need a lot of time to just be and do very little so they can process and explore energy on a spiritual level. While the body may be relatively inactive physically, there is a lot going on behind the scenes! So, drop any judgements you may have about yourself and others. Also, you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone either.

If you are waiting for others to come and validate you, you may end up waiting a very long time indeed. Instead, be the leader and take the time to go within and validate yourself. No one can truly know you as well as you do, so it is up to you to build a loving and trusting relationship with yourself.

A good way to start connecting with your own truth is to meditate. ‘Meditation 1’, the basic intuitive skills class, begins soon in September. Enrol in the psychic kindergarten in order to learn the tools necessary to kick out any energy from your space that is not yours, so you have more space to be your true authentic self.

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27 Apr

Your values create safety for you

In our everyday lives we deal with constant change and unpredictability and if we are not grounded into our own solid set of values, it can be easy to get thrown about by everyone else’s agendas.

One surefire way to tell that you may be participating in something that is not for your highest good is a sense of anxiety that seems to come out of nowhere. Your body is always communicating with you and anxiety is its way of telling you that somewhere along the line something is out of integrity. Typically there may be a situation where you need to speak up, be heard and make some changes. Whatever it may be, it is in your best interests to trust your body’s truthful guidance and wisdom.

Of course, as a sensitive and empathic being, you may also be matching to someone else’s emotional landscape. You may very well be taking on the troubles and pain of everyone else and unwittingly being the container for others to process their stuff. However, it is crucial to realise that the only person whose pain you can ever really heal and take ownership of is your own.

You can only gently guide others to the wellspring of their inner wisdom, but you can not make them drink.

The healing step here is to always seek to release what is not yours and always come back home to yourself. It might help to take a look at why you may be matching to others and see if you can perhaps get grounded within yourself instead.

A well known practice for many new intuitives, and especially for many in the New Age community, is that of ‘shielding’ or ‘protecting’ oneself with a bubble or any other similar intention. The idea behind this is to ‘keep out’ other people’s stuff. And underlying this idea is the fear that others can somehow intrude upon our spaces, that we are somehow victims to their energy. Quite frankly, the truth about this technique is that it is isolating. It is not at all necessary to use ‘shielding’ when we are in touch with who we really are. The healing step here is again to bring your awareness back to yourself and see what is being triggered in you to want to protect yourself. Maybe you are feeling vulnerable?

The only protection as such that you’ll ever need is to have a solid inner core of boundaries and clarity about who you are and who you are not. You can always lean on this inner core when the times are difficult somehow.

Instead of ‘shielding’ I would recommend using grounding instead. You can use your connection with the Earth below your feet to release what is not yours and to connect with the truths in your heart. Grounding is a cornerstone of the ‘Basic intuitive skills’ class and all of the intuitive practices at the Hello EssenceJoy Healing Centre.

The beautiful thing here is that the Universe supports you when you are operating from your truest, most authentic self. Being true to yourself may seem like a difficult task in a world where we are daily required to wear masks and repress ourselves by those that can’t handle the truth. You may even feel overwhelmed by this idea, but remember this: you are only ever given as much as you can handle. When you take healing steps for you, you are also supporting, teaching and healing many, many more individuals than you may even have a conscious awareness of. Indeed, you don’t have to write a book, teach a seminar or even utter a single word. Simply vibrating from your own truest self is the greatest healing and a teaching to all.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2017

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20 Apr

Become renewed and transformed with meditation

When moving through a challenging growth period, where do you find support and renewal?

Your growth period may be quite a biggie. You may be handling some difficult energies such as disappointment, pain, hurt, confusion or other. Maybe life is challenging you to let go of your expectations about how things should be and instead surrender to the Universal flow? Whatever the case, spiritually we grow the most when we do not get what we want, because we are bumping into our own attachments to things.

Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck. ~ Dalai Lama

By default, when discomfort, pain or growth comes up, most people go into the habitual comfort patterns. They might reach for food, drink, entertainment or substances. They may be constantly checking social profile or email. They may spend copious amounts of time working or doing whatever else will temporarily give them an endorphin rush. These are the addictions and bad habits that only strengthen and confirm attachment to worldly things. The problem with addictions is primarily that they are there only as a distraction, a futile attempt to fill a hole that can not be filled. It’s like applying band-aid on a broken bone – it will simply not do the job.

Giving in to your addictions, however severe or mild they may be, might temporarily alleviate the discomfort, but completely ignores and invalidates the real source of your troubles.

In holistic medicine we look to deal with and heal the source rather than merely band-aiding the symptoms. There is really no point in wasting time with addictions and distractions. The only way through really is to deal with the underlying issues head on rather than running away from them. For most people, however, the source of one’s pain may be difficult to discern, so quiet time is needed to commune with the truth in one’s body and soul.

A good way to begin to renew and heal yourself in a life-affirming and holistic way and to connect with the truths in your heart and body is to spend time out in the nature. You might already have discovered this for yourself and may already be doing it regularly. If not, I highly recommend it – nature is a great healer.

Now, if for whatever reason you can’t spend time out in the nature, you could practice meditation and grounding in the peace and quiet of your own home instead. Adding daily meditation into your schedule will put you firmly on the path to balance and self-healing. Meditation and grounding may very well be the tools that help you through the most difficult times. I have not, as of yet, discovered anything else more effective and powerful.

I like to imagine my meditation time as taking the time to stop, smell the roses and nourish myself by drinking the life giving waters directly from the Well of Life itself, which is of course Source. I use meditation time to commune with the truth in my heart. I just sit in silence without trying to do anything and observe without judgement what comes up. Then using visualisation I might act on what I see or not, whatever feels right at the time. There are no rules.

At times we can move through life a little wilfully, trying to get our way, trying to control others and situations. And then act like spoiled little brats when we don’t get our own way. With meditation you can begin to transform this pattern and surrender to the Universal flow, which takes care of everyone’s needs equally. Through meditation you create the space to discover that there is no need to control anything. In such a state of surrender you instead become receptive to spirit to flow into you and as a result to bring you all that it is that you have asked and yearned for. And it will come in a more beautiful and graceful way than you were able to even imagine from your limited human perspective.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2017

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16 Mar

Being in your vertical flow

When pain comes up for us we immediately seek to lean on others for safety and security. The instinctive reaction to pain is to seek for nourishment, healing and reassurance outside of ourselves.

There is a lie in here that says that we can’t handle our pain. And underneath that lie is the fear that our pain could kill us. Pain is actually a good friend who has useful information to share to us about our lives. If we keep ignoring it – it will never go away.

From an early age we learn from those around us to connect with one another in a horizontal way. We cord into our mothers via the umbilical cord at first and later via an energetic cord. We go through life constantly cording into everyone: our partners, family members, friends, colleagues, clients … even acquaintances …

Cording is nothing unusual and actually comes by default. We send energetic cords into others for safety and security. We cord because we have lost the capacity to connect with the abundant resource of energy within us. The main negative side to cording is that it depletes the energy of the one being corded into. It is actually quite dis-empowering to allow cording.

There is a more optimal, more truthful and empowered way, namely: running your own vertical energy. It begins with you grounding into the planet below your feet instead of into those around you. Then, when you release all the energy from your space that is not yours, you replenish yourself by circulating your Earth and Cosmic energies. Indeed, your own vertical energy flows are all the healing and nourishment that you really need.

All the nourishment you’ll ever need comes from the Earth below your feet and the golden sun above your head, your essence. Call this your vertical flow. Now, occasionally you fall out of this flow – that’s when you are ready for a hello. Are you ready for one now? Check if you are in your centre!

Once you become conscious of your own energy and the various energy flows running through your energy channels on a daily basis it becomes easier to begin to direct those flows. Rather than giving all your energy away and becoming depleted through cording you can remove those cords and connect with an infinite resource of energy within you instead. With your vertical energy flowing you become self-sufficient.

Being free of cords allows you to have more space for you just to be you and to create from your own truth. What an easy and joyful way of being that is!

We look at cording and spiritual agreements in our ‘Meditation 2’ program week four class. Take this 6 week intuitive training to take the next step in your spiritual evolution.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2017

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25 Feb

The psychic child within

Many of the stern adults of today were once sensitive and psychic children. All children are intuitive and own their gifts with ease. However, as they grow older, they may not have permission to use their abilities and as a result lose touch with them.

Let’s be very clear: there is absolutely nothing woo-woo about being intuitive. The idea that it is something mystical or magical in a negative way comes from fears and limited thinking that have been conditioned upon us over the ages. It is an entirely natural ability that comes with being human. No extra effort required.

Put it this way, if you have a soul, then you are psychic. Simple as that. Using your ability means getting in touch with that part of yourself we call ‘the soul’ or whatever else you want to call it. It is of course much more complex than just ‘a soul’, but to simplify we can say it is that part of you that is connected with the source of all answers and is all you need for your healing and well-being.

The easiest and quickest way to access your intuition is primarily through imagination. You can also connect through sensations, feelings, sounds or knowingness, but imagination is the way that is most fun and natural. You may not think you are very imaginative, but if you can envision the simple image of an apple, then you already have what it takes to receive communication from your spirit. Now the task becomes to quiet the noise within and around you down enough so as to be able to hear the often subtle voice of your soul.

Daydreaming is a very fun and joyful way through which children access their own answers. They do this very naturally and without making a fuss about it. Children have not yet been heavily conditioned by those around them, so they allow their imagination and their spirits to wander and play around without restrictions. It is the fundamental curiosity and sense of wonder that drives them to ask the questions and receive the answers. Children are walking and talking geniuses and there is much we could learn from them.

Many of the adults today live their lives carrying around with them the fears, conditioning and the lies handed to them from their parents, authorities or other adults around them. These lies and responsibilities, that they accepted without any questioning, clothed them in an imaginary cloak of security, which was supposed to grant them success in life and keep them safe, but in reality has done nothing else than block them from seeing themselves and those around them clearly. The core lie here is that they cannot access their own answers and couldn’t possibly be psychic. The abilities are there, however, the only question remains: to which extent does any given person choose to use their abilities? Some people passionately pursue their intuitive capacity, while others may want to run from it and turn it off completely.

The basic intuitive skills class is the psychic kindergarten where your inner child gets a hello and you get the chance to slowly begin to nurture and turn own your natural abilities again. You get to be the child again and grow, play and have fun in a safe and supportive learning environment.

Next class series is beginning on March 11 at the Eastbourne Natural Fitness Centre. There are a few open spaces left. Click here to find out more and to ground your spot.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2017

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10 Feb

A revolution of the heart

This year has barely begun and already we are seeing global movements unlike any other. Get ready for the most amazing year in human history ever! A revolution is happening and it’s happening in people’s hearts.

We have all been waiting for this time of change for a long long time and now it’s finally here. As a species, we humans have been severely divided from one another by our politics, religion and even fear-based media. We have spent our lives in isolation and seclusion from one another. This has been a fragmented and lonely planet for many of us. But as the few brave people step up, speak up and get their voices heard, more and more people start to join in. We are uniting. No one gets left behind.

Thanks to the fear-based propaganda of the tyrants like Mr. Trump and others like him all across the globe, civilians are finally finding out what an immovable force and a super power they really are when they come together and demand to be heard. People are no longer putting up with things that insult their souls. As was the case with the ‘Women’s March’ in the US. It was an ocean of pink that flooded the streets and opened the hearts of millions upon millions of others everywhere on the planet.

Coming together means realising the unity of all – the good, the bad and the in-between. It means realising that we are all one. Different sides of the same coin as they say. Indeed, it all contributes to the whole and the overall forward movement. In fact, Mr. Trump did not start this revolution, it did not begin because of him or thanks to him.

This revolution was already a long time coming and D. Trump is simply a piece of this huge global change we are all experiencing. There is no one to blame.

However, just because it’s all happening ‘in divine timing’ does not mean it’s fine to carry on as usual and keep putting up with old destructive patterns. No. Those old ways have worn out their welcome. Now is not the time to sit on the sidelines – now is the time to move forward and to stand up for your values.

Women have been repressed by the patriarchy for thousands of years and labelled ‘the weaker sex’. Studying the female biological stamina versus the male biological stamina, I’m not entirely convinced that this is actually even the case! However, with the global change already underway, we will see matriarchy rise and shine like never before. And perhaps the most beautiful and healing thing about the feminine power is its ability to create a revolution that is free from violence. Its ability to create change through gentleness. There is of course still the undercurrent of divine anger against injustice and unfairness, but as we have seen, it is being channeled wisely towards divine action.

Over the coming year and beyond, we are going to witness acts of solidarity and unity with the repressed and downtrodden in a way that none of us have ever seen before in our lifetimes. Maybe even never in human history. Something extra-ordinary is happening right before our very own eyes.

The revolution that is taking place is the revolution of the heart. A global healing is happening and more and more people of different perspectives, cultural backgrounds, race and religion are joining in. With acts of love, courage, brotherhood and community, they are standing up to those that try to repress and divide them. The old patriarchal ways are being made obsolete. And we are coming together not just as people of different countries and cultural backgrounds, but as creatures of the same species. We are indeed brothers and sisters.

In the dark ages, greedy kings and rulers of the lands abused their people and claimed sole authority on what was true and got away with it. That was easy to do because there was very little information available and people were uneducated. Now, in the Age of Aquarius, the age of information, those kinds of leaders have worn out their welcome and then some! The old Tyrannosaurus rex type of leaders that want to lull us into a state of apathy and dis-empowerment are now nothing more than a mere relic of the past. People have awakened and continue to do so. We are so very blessed to be alive in this day and age.

While we definitely want to remember to stay in touch with our loving core while carrying out our role in activism we must also realise it is perfectly fine to feel anger and other emotions that arise when we see injustice happening. For example, when an individual who is elected into a position of power and leadership is depriving his very own people of access to even the most basic healthcare, you know an intervention is required.

The new revolution comes from people standing together. We stand with standing rock, we stand with women, with the people of colour, with Mexicans, with gays, Muslims and everyone. No one gets to be repressed anymore. We stand in protection of our Mother Earth and do what is necessary to protect her and to prevent dramatic climate change.

Probably the best thing to come from all of this is that all those who have been previously repressed will now have enough space and permission to come forward and feel safe in the love that is abundantly pouring out to all equally and without discrimination.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2017

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24 Jan

Wanted: visionaries that can see truth, love and beauty

On the night of January the 15th, Jesus came to me in my dream-space and showed me in the first person the experiences and events around and leading up to his crucifixion. While getting nailed to a cross may not strike as a very happy image for most people, I will, however, treasure this special visitation and the gifts gained from it for the rest of my life.

Truly, I am happy beyond any level of happiness I have ever been to have received this special insight from Jesus. That is because by reaching out to me and sharing with me one of his most intimate moments with the Supreme Being he is at the same time helping me with my life task or the very reason why I have incarnated into this body and lifetime. Jesus was without a doubt a great leader and a visionary who taught through his example the healing power of love and trust and stood up for those whose voices had not been heard before. Many, many miracles have been documented of the healings that he performed.

Interestingly, January 15 was also Martin Luther King’s birthday, who is another man that facilitated great societal change. Like Jesus, he inspired the masses with his impassioned speeches, spoke of choosing love over fear and stood up for the less advantaged. Both of these extraordinary men had a burning, passionate love for mankind and a great intolerance for hate, greed and injustice of any kind. As is appropriate for all true spiritual leaders throughout history, both of them also operated from the highest integrity, promoted equality for all and fiercely stood up for what is right.

Jesus, Martin Luther King and many other great leaders who have walked among us through the ages have all had something powerful working for them, namely: the gift of higher vision. They had the incredible ability to envision and take action towards a loving, kind and a beautiful existence for us all. And their vision was indeed very needed to lift us all as a collective up and out of the heaviness of our ignorance, unconsciousness, divisiveness and fear. Fortunately for us all, higher vision is an ability that can be accessed by everyone and isn’t exclusive to only a few extraordinary men and women.

Indeed, visualisation, which is a natural ability, is more than ‘just’ visualisation. When you decide to bring yourself to a visual level and allow yourself to see, you are in fact healing yourself and others, because by visualising you are accessing your spirit. And when you say hello to your spirit – magic happens.

The images you create in your mind’s eye are what will manifest into your reality. Imagination really is that powerful. So why not go ahead and imagine a peaceful, loving and beautiful existence for us all?

Nowadays with so many fear-based news stories dominating the media we need more people that say hello to the truth, love and beauty in things. Even just a few courageous individuals who stay centered on and constantly say hello to truth, love and beauty in all circumstances is what truly heals and progresses humanity right now. Humanity needs daily hellos from visionaries who step forward and speak up for what is right, visionaries who create beautiful works of art and visionaries that heal simply with a compassionate glance and their beautiful smiles.

In our present day and age we need leadership like Jesus, Martin Luther King and other beings like these who can see the value, worth and beauty of each and every one of us beyond what the appearances seem to be. We need leaders that can see beyond competition, our net worth or how we stack up against others in comparison. Humanity as a whole needs leaders now that teach from unconditional love and spread it around for us all through their decisive actions.

The scales of justice tip over to the side of injustice every time someone chooses to degrade, bully, belittle or otherwise invalidate another human being. And when one of us suffers – all of us suffer. It is the spiritual law.

The true leaders of today do not divide or separate us, but unite us through love and encourage each and every one of us to be our truest, most optimal selves. They reassure that we are loved no matter what. I say yes to a leader, who would invite me to a wild barefoot shamanic dancing and singing party where I could let go of all of my inhibitions and just be my most authentic self. That would be a wild non-alcoholic and vegan party, of course.

After all the encounters with Jesus and other master beings recently, I keep getting the comforting message from the Universe that you can proceed with your greatest joy and life purpose here and have the innocence and trust of a child that whatever you need will be provided as and when needed. “Thou shalt not want” doesn’t mean you should have no desires, but that you will never have to go without the food, love, shelter, kindness or whatever other sustenance that you need to nourish yourself. All that is needed to invite in this beautiful energy is a little more daily gratitude for what you already have and all will truly be well.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2017

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14 Dec

Heal with forgiveness

At times the people in our lives can say or do things that can be hurtful to us. Maybe something happened ‘in the heat of the moment’ or maybe no harm was even intended and simply an old wound got lit up for you.

Whatever the case, things happen and we have the choice to either open up and bleed and feel it all or close down and put up a wall. More often than not people prefer to run, hide and build walls, which does nothing but contribute to the sense of division and isolation from others. It takes a lot of courage to stay in one’s vulnerability when things get uncomfortable or when pain comes up.

Whether harm from another was intended or not it is an immediate healing to fully acknowledge and own the pain that can come up at times. You powerfully heal yourself and others when you allow yourself to stay fully present with your feelings rather than casting them aside as troublesome or inconvenient. If you don’t own and feel your stuff now it will come up again at another time, so you might as well just go ahead and do the work now.

Sometimes disagreements arise between people because of their differences from one another and these disagreements can be resolved gently and kindly with respect and reverence towards all involved or there can be negative reactions that individuals usually wish they had handled differently. In those times we must remind ourselves that all of us are indeed spiritual beings on a human path and nobody’s perfect. We all learn and we all make mistakes – that’s what we’re here for and is primarily how we grow.

Each one of us is so very unique and simply cannot be compared to another. Everyone is different and has their own approaches and perspectives in life. Sometimes we simply disagree on things, but we can always agree to disagree.

Truth is, we all came from the same source and we are all heading in the same direction, too. That direction is love and inclusiveness.

There are different kinds of wounds and reasons for why they are created. Some of them can be from this lifetime and some can go very far back to past lives. It is precisely at that time when you are ready to face these old wounds that they get triggered again around a specific person or place. This is no accident or coincidence and was indeed divinely orchestrated by your essence, aka your higher self, so you could release the past and move on to greener pastures.

I understand that it can be very difficult to forgive an aggressor, but the thing with holding on to anger or unforgiveness toward another is that at the end of the day the only person these heavy emotions will really harm is you. Choosing to hold on to the old toxic energy of unforgiveness is an energy leak since by doing so you are in fact keeping a piece of your energy hostage in the past. That energy could be very well be used for something much more productive such as your creative projects.

Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you condone what they did. It means releasing the toxic energy you have been holding on to so you can move on.

Let me clarify this just in case it wasn’t clear from the start: there is nothing wrong with feeling anger, unforgiveness or any other heavy emotions. When an injustice occurs, an emotional response is only natural and is there to communicate some truth to you. However, after the experience is over and lessons have been learned, it is time to let go.

Being willing to release your anger and consciously choosing to forgive is a hello to the truth that we come here to have experiences based on our spiritual agreements with one another. Once the agreements are complete and experiences have been had it is time to integrate.

Everyone heals in their own way and at their own pace. There is no rush and there is no pressure to heal fast. Most importantly you heal by expressing your feelings and the truths that have been stirred in your heart. It does not serve anyone to hold your deep truths and pain inside.

Once you reach the other side of your forgiveness process you can once again start to entertain the idea that everyone is always doing their best. Yes, even those that seem to be outright intentionally harming others. Indeed, universal justice exists and no one ever gets away with anything. This Universe of ours is a very fair and just one and we are very blessed. Staying centered in these simple truths we can start to move forward into the future with childlike innocence and trust again.

Energywork tip: you can use imagination for this forgiveness exercise. Imagine a gold rose between you and the person or event you would like to forgive. Just keep saying hello to the gold rose until you have sufficient space from this person or event. Once you get your space back and become neutral to all the strong emotions that have come up you can start to heal.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2016

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14 Nov

Take your time

We are always in a hurry to get to the next ‘big thing’. Same happens as we move through the tasks in a day: we go from one thing to the next without taking a proper break. It’s like the disease of this century. There never seems to be enough time to just sit, breathe and be.

Having your to-do-list crammed full of items can be like an addiction. People even brag about having a lot to do as if it were a good thing. They pride themselves on multitasking and are always chasing more activity, more money, more this or that. God forbid if you sit still for five minutes and just breathe.

Living in this way, always hurrying somewhere, you are living with a large portion of your energy either projected out into the future or stuck in the past. As in, “I will be happy when … ” – you fill the blank. To a clairvoyant it will look like your aura is projected out in front of you. With little of your energy available to you in the present, you can easily become diluted, spread too thin and simply burned out.

Always having a lot to do and a chasing a lot of things to have throws things out of balance. When your energy is spread out to the past and the future, there simply won’t be enough of you in the present and you need your energy in the present to heal your body. We can restore that balance by grounding ourselves into the present by taking more time with each task, dwelling on them a little longer to extract the full value from them and honouring the body’s limits.

A healing happens when you ground yourself back into this present moment and choose to let go of all the non-essential. It is such a beautiful gift to yourself to instead slow down, choose to have fewer things to do and savour each moment.

This business of life and living, it’s not all about doing and having. Just being is also a worthy companion.

So, who or what has control over your schedule today? Does your to-do-list include breathing breaks? Are you the one choosing your tasks or is there some other energy outside of you controlling your space? Could it be your mother’s expectations of you? Take a look right now!

Imagine if there was nothing you ‘had’ to do, then what would you want or choose to do? What comes to you as an answer to this question is probably the most important thing for you to be doing right now! And that thing may in fact be doing nothing in particular at all and simply breathing.

So, today take back ownership of your space and take your time. Slow down and take your time when you have your favourite cup of tea, when you watch your favourite TV series, when you walk through a forest, when you water your plants, when you feed your dogs, when you play with your children or when you do your work. These moments are precious and will never repeat in exactly the same way again. Nothing is permanent. Infuse lots of gratitude, appreciation and beauty into each and every moment. Be totally present and savour each moment before moving on to the next thing.

Imagine if you were infinitely lovable and taken care of by an extremely compassionate Universe, savouring each moment without hurrying to the next thing would indeed be the most beautiful gift you could possibly give to yourself. Why are you in a hurry anyways when the whole of eternity is yours to play with!

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