14 Dec

Having your own space

Having space to oneself is essential for all therapists, psychics and just about anyone devoted to helping others.

It is probably the most important consideration, because if you’re not in ownership of your own space and do not take good care of it – what kind of an example are you setting? If you regularly give your space away to others, are you really helping or are you in sacrifice? Sacrifice is when you are giving and giving and are not getting anything back in return.

Whether you are aware of energy or not, you set the tone or example by how you treat your own energy. That is what speaks louder than your words.

Do you have permission to have your own space? Or are you okay with your space being treated like a public space: the place for everyone to walk through with their figurative dirty boots as and whenever they please. It’s a question of what you feel you deserve.

Reclaiming and having your space takes confidence.

Being an empath it can be far too easy to begin to take on all kinds of foreign energy because of a lack of boundaries against what you are and are not okay with. It can become too easy to start to heal everyone inside your energy field without even as much as a thought to yourself. A spiritual perfect picture says it is ‘saintly’ or ‘noble’ to fix and heal others all the time. Maybe so, but it is unhealthy and could result in illness.

Reclaiming your space means deciding to make your own energy the most important one in your Universe, making your own truth Senior. If your own truth has been invalidated many times before it may be hard for you to even consider that you may in fact have your own truth. Being out of touch with your own energy can show up as something like resistance to getting out of bed in the morning to something like depression.

If you are not running your own energy – aka not living your own truth – you won’t be feeling great. Your body only welcomes the energy of your own spirit and your own truth. Someone else’s truth in your space does not fit.

Afterall, aren’t we all spirit – whether in body or not. The hard part isn’t being psychic – it’s sorting out your own truth in the jungle of voices and truths at large. A clairvoyant reading and healing is a hello to you as a spirit in body. Once your spirit is validated in your body, you will have easier time of healing yourself.

There are some practices that I stick to these days in order to take better care of myself. These are the hard-earned boundaries I developed through direct experience.


However, you don’t have to be in the psychic profession to decide your space is important and valuable to you. There are many who are psychic and are unaware of their ability. You may be picking up on and processing someone else’s issues and not even realize it.

So how do you begin to own your space to yourself? You could start with grounded meditation. When you meditate you validate your spirit and by grounding your energy into the Earth you can release any information that does not belong to you. I run meditation classes on the phone and at my location here in Eastbourne, so why don’t you join me?

When you reclaim your space through energywork meditation, psychic tools and boundaries – you can regain your joy.

© Hello EssenceJoy 2013

Photo: ‘Space’ / Flower Story’s Facebook page

23 Jul

How to set the tone for your day?

Do you practice meditation in the morning before getting on with your day or do you hit the ground running?

Have you ever even considered a centering practice to start your day with?

From personal experience, I can assure you, a day unfolds into to a much fuller potential when you meditate in the morning.

It is the cure for stepping out of bed with the wrong foot.

A gentle early meditation allows you to connect with your center and to stay in it. The more you’ll have meditated, the more you will be able to remain in that center no matter what life throws at you.

Being in your center is the act of being Senior – you recognize yourself, your own spirit as the central creative force in your life. When you meditate, you validate yourself.

Of course, for those of you not yet into the habit of regular meditation, the initial challenge may be even finding enough time and space to meditate. Present day lives can be so full of clutter and noise and we can be so very addicted to that – it may be really difficult to even separate from all that. It may be difficult to find ourselves in that everyday jungle.

Meditation allows you to begin to find what is true for you, so that you can create from your own truth.

Morning meditation is especially great as it will set the tone for the rest of your day.

I like to meditate after having had breakfast. It usually takes about 30 to 45 minutes, but sometimes it can be as fast as 20 minutes. It depends on how much energy I can have on that day. If you are the super-busy type (e.g.: mother of three and juggling three jobs), then short meditations should suffice; unless you’re good to wake up a lot earlier than you already do.

Regardless of how well everything is going, sometimes I can wake up feeling totally stuck, blocked, heavy and resistant to go about the day. There is no telling how you feel in the morning and yes – it can be something you ate. It’s thanks to the meditation that I see the most optimal choice to make for the day.

I may be processing some heavy emotions, but that doesn’t mean they have to set the tone for the day. I recognize and validate my emotions, but I can still focus intention on higher qualities that I wish to have as the guiding lights throughout the day.

This takes Seniority. You have to be Senior to realize that your day is your making and no one else can influence it towards their ends.

When you meditate regularly, you will begin to settle into a nice space of awareness and Seniority and someone else’s bad day no longer throws you out of your center.

You set the tone for your day simply by meditating before diving into all the activity. First, you find a nice and comfortable spot. Then using visualization, you ground yourself, and finally when you feel ready – you visually create a rose for the day. Look for the optimal rose color that you feel in affinity with.

Then playfully throw into that rose intentions for what you want from this day. Here are some examples:

  • lightness
  • ease
  • joy
  • color
  • grounding
  • inspiration
  • neutrality
  • physical energy
  • get-up-and-go
  • discipline to stay on track
  • having
  • social fun
  • questions
  • wonder
  • curiosity
  • clarity
  • amusement


© EssenceJoy Clairvoyance 2013

photo: ‘orange rose’ / Flower Story page on www.facebook.com

12 May

How do you choose to grow?

In every moment of your life, you are always presented with the simple choice: how do you choose to grow? 

Through joy or through pain?

The choice is yours.

Old ideas of spirituality, imprinted to us through various religions, have us believe that it’s ‘more spiritual’ to choose pain. That we have to go through some sort of ‘testing’ and ‘hellfire’ in order to become enlightened. That spiritual growth definitely means pain.

That is, of course, utter nonsense. There is no such thing as ‘more spiritual’. Either way you choose to go, you are still a spirit on a human path. If you choose pain, then that is what you will have.

Pain may be involved and often is. But it is not essential. It does not have to be there and it does not have to be held on to. In fact, it is the release of heaviness that becomes ‘en-light-en-ment’. The incredible tool of grounding facilitates the release of any energy that we do not want or need to carry along.

For the more psychic / sensitive among us, it can be far too easy to become a container for not just one’s own pain, but also for others. Because one is so sensitive, one often sees and feels all the pain around everywhere. This can be very uncomfortable, so one may want to try and fix this through taking on everything one sees.

That is what I call ‘unconscious healing’ – carrying around other people’s heavy stuff. From an early age one may have been a healer and never received any validation for it. From an early age this person may have believed that he is responsible for all the crap he sees and feels. This is the primary cause for low self-esteem.

It is everyone’s personal responsibility to take care of one’s own space and energy – not that of others!

It is your only responsibility to validate and love yourself. To value your own energy. This way it will be easier to create a healthier image of yourself and to begin to have a higher self-esteem.

On the contrary to the popular belief, spirit is actually the stuff that pure joy is made out of. The more of your own unique spirit you can have in this body here and now – the more joy you can have. This is the recipe for inner peace.

Having your own unique spirit literally means creating and carving your own path based on your own Truth, your own unique desires, wants and needs. It means following what makes you happy, what brings you joy and fires up your enthusiasm. Note: this takes some courage as it does not mean living up to other people’s expectations or playing it safe.

When presented with that choice, joy or pain, I know what I will choose over and over again!

What will you choose?

© EssenceJoy Clairvoyance 2013

photo: ‘forest floor’ / www.facebook.com / page: Flower Story