8 Jan

2017 is the golden year of spirit

Each year brings with it its own unique energy flavour and 2017 is the year when spirit gets a hello in a very big way. The current energetic atmosphere makes it possible to make great strides in spiritual growth.

This is not a prediction, but rather an observation on what is happening right now. For us as a human race there is the choice to either continue the old way, keep clinging to our comfort and let ego rule the day or we could take that evolutionary step forward and instead give ourselves over to spirit and let spirit lead the way. With the current personal, community, environmental and global challenges we have in front of us it is obvious that if were to let ego continue to rule the day we would surely be heading for self-destruction. Only with spirit leading the way can we become healed and whole again. Many people on the planet already operate solely out of spirit, but there are many as of yet to follow suit.

If you try to carry on business as usual you might not find this year a particularly pleasant or an easy one since the ego no longer gets to have the upper hand. We have seen what happens when people act out of fears and selfishness and it has not been pretty.

The global events throughout 2016 have shown that nothing can be predicted with much accuracy anymore and the only constant you can really rely on is change. This is great since all that unconscious stuff that has been sitting stagnant, hidden away from plain view and manipulating us from the shadows for a long long time is finally getting moved around and being updated into present time now. All the old lies, destructive patterns and fear-based programming that have been controlling, manipulating and sabotaging people from the unconscious have been revealed and brought to clear daylight. We now know exactly who and what we are really dealing with. We know what we must do to move forward. There is no more hiding, no more sitting on the sidelines and accepting the things that are not acceptable. And no one gets to have shortcuts here – we are all in the same boat, so to speak.

More and more people are becoming spiritual activists and are asking the tough questions. Instead of operating on blind faith more people are really examining those long-held beliefs about themselves and their leaders.

The energy of the year 2017 is such that it is especially supportive of new beginnings in every way. It’s a brilliant year to leave behind old habits, that old low-salary job that has been draining your energy, that toxic relationship that has been making you feel inadequate and whatever else has been holding you back from taking that quantum leap into the life you have been dreaming of. Take your next step with the help of an intuitive session right now.

In 2017 visionary leaders are needed, those who can see the truth, love and beauty even in the ugliest of situations. The planet needs those who can boldly imagine a happier, more joyful world for us all to live in.

We need creatives and healers to step up as the spiritual leaders that they truly are. Indeed, much compassion will be needed from the spiritually more experienced ones now more than ever before especially since so many people are awakening.

It will serve us all well to keep in mind that the only place where each and every one of us really has that authority and control is still our own backyards, ourselves and our own energy. This is to say that we cannot control, fix, heal or solve anything for others if such help is not required or asked for.

The best steps we can take immediately and start to move forward is to see what we can change in ourselves right now. This begins with turning within, meditating and using visualization to create the kind of a year we would like to have. Indeed, spirit creates through images, pictures and visions and by creating a clear mental picture of what you want – you will draw that to you. Some action will be required as well, of course, but as you clarify your vision, you will attract what you want to you more effortlessly.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2017

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14 Nov

Take your time

We are always in a hurry to get to the next ‘big thing’. Same happens as we move through the tasks in a day: we go from one thing to the next without taking a proper break. It’s like the disease of this century. There never seems to be enough time to just sit, breathe and be.

Having your to-do-list crammed full of items can be like an addiction. People even brag about having a lot to do as if it were a good thing. They pride themselves on multitasking and are always chasing more activity, more money, more this or that. God forbid if you sit still for five minutes and just breathe.

Living in this way, always hurrying somewhere, you are living with a large portion of your energy either projected out into the future or stuck in the past. As in, “I will be happy when … ” – you fill the blank. To a clairvoyant it will look like your aura is projected out in front of you. With little of your energy available to you in the present, you can easily become diluted, spread too thin and simply burned out.

Always having a lot to do and a chasing a lot of things to have throws things out of balance. When your energy is spread out to the past and the future, there simply won’t be enough of you in the present and you need your energy in the present to heal your body. We can restore that balance by grounding ourselves into the present by taking more time with each task, dwelling on them a little longer to extract the full value from them and honouring the body’s limits.

A healing happens when you ground yourself back into this present moment and choose to let go of all the non-essential. It is such a beautiful gift to yourself to instead slow down, choose to have fewer things to do and savour each moment.

This business of life and living, it’s not all about doing and having. Just being is also a worthy companion.

So, who or what has control over your schedule today? Does your to-do-list include breathing breaks? Are you the one choosing your tasks or is there some other energy outside of you controlling your space? Could it be your mother’s expectations of you? Take a look right now!

Imagine if there was nothing you ‘had’ to do, then what would you want or choose to do? What comes to you as an answer to this question is probably the most important thing for you to be doing right now! And that thing may in fact be doing nothing in particular at all and simply breathing.

So, today take back ownership of your space and take your time. Slow down and take your time when you have your favourite cup of tea, when you watch your favourite TV series, when you walk through a forest, when you water your plants, when you feed your dogs, when you play with your children or when you do your work. These moments are precious and will never repeat in exactly the same way again. Nothing is permanent. Infuse lots of gratitude, appreciation and beauty into each and every moment. Be totally present and savour each moment before moving on to the next thing.

Imagine if you were infinitely lovable and taken care of by an extremely compassionate Universe, savouring each moment without hurrying to the next thing would indeed be the most beautiful gift you could possibly give to yourself. Why are you in a hurry anyways when the whole of eternity is yours to play with!

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2016

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28 Oct

Grounding helps to make you real

As an intuitive energy reader and a healer I always work from a grounded space. Before I learned to ground myself I felt that something was missing. It was hard for me to be myself around others, to assert myself and to have my own space.

You ground yourself and all of your own information by connecting the base of your spine to the centre of the planet. Your own information is your spirit, your unique energy, and grounding is what helps to bring all of you back into your body. Without grounding you’d simply be floating around somewhere. A phrase comes to mind here for lack of grounding: “the lights are on, but no one’s home.”

Indeed, it was when I began practising grounding that I was finally able to lower my vibration enough to start taking real action steps towards my dreams, goals and life purpose. Without grounding it was nice to float around and explore the ethers, but it was also very hard to realise myself in the right here and now. So, when I was done with exploring and ready to get real, the Universe sent me teachers who taught me how to ground myself.

Giving myself a grounding cord in my early twenties was one of the most beautiful healing gifts I could have ever given to myself. I never felt more fulfilled until I started grounding myself and things only got better and better from there on. Grounding allowed me to release any old and excess pain energy that I’d been carrying around for everyone around me and I finally discovered who I was underneath all of that old energy. I discovered I could actually have my own space for myself. Knowing myself and getting clear on who I was, I was finally also able to become more assertive and self-assured.

Grounding allowed me to take back my space and to become more assertive.

Besides grounding myself I also began grounding everything else: my home, my town, my computer, my food, my dreams and much more. Doing so created many healings. Giving my dreams a grounding cord allowed for the vibration of the dream to manifest in the here and now much faster than it would have done without grounding. I also began healing stressful situations very quickly by grounding them.

On my recent trip to India I was on a flight from Trivandrum to Delhi and sat next to a traditional healer from a Southern Indian state. We spoke about many things and I introduced the grounding technique to him. He expressed his belief that grounding yourself you could become too materialistic and out of touch with your heart. This seems to be the prevailing belief out there and is actually not true since when you ground yourself you simply ground your own information. With grounding you can realise who you already are. And from that space of being real many wonderful healings and miracles happen. By grounding yourself you take full ownership of who you are and are then able to learn and grow much much more than you would be if you were aimlessly floating around in the ethers.

Grounding is what validates who you are as a spiritual being and helps to make you real here in the physical body.

Another thing this Indian healer and many old school practitioners share in common is that they often use a lot of external tools such as feathers, crystals, oracle cards, pendulums, oils, candles, incense and what not. At the Hello EssenceJoy Healing Centre we do not use external tools. Instead, we work from a centered and meditative space and only practice visual tools. We validate our own truth. Grounding and self-validation are essential to the intuitive path, because they allow you to feel safe enough in your body to have your abilities on turned on. With your abilities safely turned on you no longer need external tools since you have what you need already available to you within you.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2016

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9 Sep

Becoming the total embodiment of your true self

Today may seem like any other day, but in reality it is a very special day indeed. Numerologically speaking today’s date carries with it the 9/9/9 vibration and holds within it immense power for healing, closure and manifestation.

This whole year of 2016 I’ve been watching with curiosity, wonder and amazement how the current year number 9 has been playing itself out. The 999 sequence has literally popped up everywhere and carries with it a lot of meaning. You can easily find out the meaning of the triple 9 by googling it, but I would encourage you to notice what this number sequence means for you personally – you can do that by just paying attention to what the events, situations, lessons and blessings are for you right now.

The number 9 is generally known to represent the Universal spiritual laws, a higher perspective, influence, non-conformity, leading life as a positive example for others, altruism, humanitarianism, philanthropy, healing, teaching, guidance, closure and endings.

Having an abundance of 9 energy in one date signifies the meaning of the number 9 being magnified, which means that it is especially important to pay attention to its meaning. Looking closely, this is truly a time of endings, of doing kind deeds for the humanity as a whole and getting down to business as far as true life purpose is concerned. It’s a good time to take a look at what you are done with and where you want to go next. Of course it can also mean completions in a karmic sense so it’s not always an easy ride – it depends on where you have been! If there is something karmic for you to look at then you may be triggered today. And that is a good thing.

In fact, the whole year of 2016 has been building up to these three dates: September 9, 18 and 27. They all hold the 9/9/9 vibration. If you look closely at the events throughout this year you can see clearly that indeed some sort of collective karmic themes have been explored. Regardless of the drama that has ensued, the most important thing is that people are awakening to their true life purpose.

From a higher perspective the 9/9/9 date signifies the fulfillment of the masculine and the feminine – the union of shiva and shakti as they are known in Hinduism. It’s a good time to take a close look at how you embody both the feminine and the masculine qualities within yourself and where you could possibly embrace more of either one or the other thus becoming more complete and whole within yourself.

Something to be aware of is that the dark masculine can be a fearsome, destructive and bloodthirsty warrior while the dark feminine can be an evil witch. We all carry the elements of both within ourselves. If you don’t accept, love and own the uncomfortable stuff it will simply get pushed into the unconscious and continue to seek expression in an unconscious way, which means it will then simply control your life from behind the scenes. By having something come up for you you will be in a position to examine it in the light of day rather than have it continue controlling your life from the unconscious.

As you own your power, sit in ownership of your true self and speak your truth, the relationships around you will inevitably change. Here’s something to bare in mind: you deserve love and respect and it’s absolutely safe to let go of relationships that do not honor and respect who you really are. If someone rejects you for who you are when you are coming from a pure and authentic place within yourself then they are in fact rejecting themselves. Leave them with their own processes, you can’t change other people’s reactions or choices. It is for them to live with. Be complete within yourself and take good care of yourself by choosing relationships and friendships that honor you. This is to say: trust the wise intuitive counsel of your body.

As a sensitive and aware being you might have been teased from an early age about your sensitivity or bullied or intimidated because you were somehow different. You might still be carrying these wounds around with you in your energy field or these old pictures that say you are somehow not good enough or somehow lacking something. It is loving toward yourself to avoid harsh relationships or situations and to steer toward simplicity. You may need lots of time today to go within and to just be with yourself and to avoid harsh situation. Enjoy and cherish your alone time.

The truth is that you have your own unique inadequacies or shortcomings and those are there for a reason. You came into this lifetime with a set of characteristics and your essence set up those to create conditions for something specific that it wanted to experience. For example, disability might mean less mobility, but it could also open up possibility for you to learn to ask for help rather than attempting to do everything by yourself. A very important theme to look at today is that of letting go of any and all judgements towards yourself.

So today situations may be coming up that may be encouraging you to stand up for yourself and walk in your truth. Maybe you are being pushed energetically and tested for how well you are established in your centre. Maybe you are tested for your ability to soften and be kind. The tendencies are all up now and up for review so you can take a really good look at where you can still grow and expand. Enjoy!

Some of the points to consider today:

  1. What/who am I done with and ready to let go of?
  2. What do I need to integrate more of: masculine or feminine?
  3. Can I speak my truth without holding back?
  4. Can I be fully present and authentic with the people in my life?
  5. Am I living my own dream or someone else’s?
  6. Do I trust myself?
  7. Am I being loving and kind towards myself?
  8. Can I embrace my shadow without trying to fix it?
  9. Am I being on my path?

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2016

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14 Jun

Competition vs co-operation

The collective consciousness is experiencing a shift. The old picture of competition is being released and the new picture of co-operation is moving in. Human beings are finally growing up.

Competition is third chakra energy. The third chakra, which is located in the navel area is the home of energies such as effort, permission and willpower. It is the modus operandi of the young soul world-view, which is all about struggle, fighting to survive and the picture that there isn’t enough for everyone. It is not bad as such but it is the old way of being. This way of being is evidenced by non-peaceful conflict resolution between groups, tribes and countries.

Co-operation, on the other hand, is a fourth chakra energy and represents community, affinity, love, beauty, the arts, abundance, mutual support and the picture that there is plenty for everyone. The growth at this level is about self-esteem, self-image pictures, self-love and love of others. It is not without its challenges of course, but it is certainly a step up towards peace from the more warmongering third chakra perspective.

The last remains of the old competition-based world-view is the current painfully obvious 1% vs the 99% economic situation in the US or the obvious lack of a wealthy middle-class in many other countries. There appears to be a small group of extremely wealthy individuals that control the flow of resources on our planet and not leaving much for the rest of us. This truth came up because we as a human race are ready to face this, ready to look at it straight in the eye and to tackle it head on.

There are already world leaders gaining more power currently that represent the new picture, leaders that speak up and stand up for the new way, but the old is sure resistant to move out. For example, think of Bernie Sanders vs Donald Trump. This is a classic example of a leader established in co-operation world-view vs another still very much mired in the old competition.

The fact that there are still wars going on in our world or that there is tension between countries and cultures that involves aggression and violence towards one another shows we still have much work to do with blowing the old picture. The existence of deeply misguided groups of individuals that seek to destroy or the violent outbursts of separate isolated individuals shows that the collective consciousness still needs much healing. We are still wounded on a very deep level and have yet to embrace the least of us, the minorities, the abandoned, the downtrodden and the misunderstood.

The way we can all support the new world view and start contributing towards a happier, healthier and more joyous planet for us all is to let go of the fear that there isn’t enough for everyone and that we need to prepare for the worst since something ‘bad is about to happen’. That is the old picture! We must consciously entertain trust and choose to feel that we are safe and taken good care of by a loving Universe. Entertaining fear serves no one.

Imagine, if the Supreme Being was able to create the Universe, then surely, He can provide us what we need? Perhaps He has already been doing so! He has simply been waiting for our senses to grow sharper and to begin to notice and see how He is indeed supporting us.

We can all do our bit to support the new picture by acting on it rather than merely talking about it. We can all be a little more loving towards others, open up, trust people, be in the community, forgive, love the Earth and especially, love ourselves. The love we can give to others is proportionate to the love we are able to receive and to give to ourselves. This means leaving behind things that insult your soul, things that you subscribed to out of survival instinct, and instead choose what inspires, uplifts and heals you.

When conflict occurs around us or in the world at large we can all use the sadness and grief that comes up as a springboard to become even more loving. We can resolve to let go of our selfishness and instead see how we could do something to give back to the community. Perhaps through donating to charity or by volunteering our time to a local charity shop. We transform our planet through the daily acts of kindness of one loving person at a time.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2016

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9 May

Where do you find support?

Before a seed can become a flower it needs to be carefully sowed into fertile soil at the appropriate time. It then requires the gardener’s constant loving attention and care to be nurtured to its fullness, maturation and eventually flowering.

Through its growth cycle from a humble seed to a beautiful, magnificent flower, a plant has a lot of challenges to face: weather conditions, pests, birds and animals. Without the gardener’s proper care, attention and presence the flower would have difficulty in becoming all that it can be – it could not attain its optimal potential.

In the same way we are all like these flowers and we all need support and nurturing both from the Earth below our feet, the nature around us, natural seasonal cycles, from our own conscious actions as well as from those around us to become all that we can be. We are all in this life thing together and it is only through supporting each other that we can all blossom.

So where do you find support when dealing with a challenge or perhaps when your shadow has come up for review? You probably have many more sources of support than you may even be aware of. Take a moment to become aware of what supports you and be in gratitude for those. When you send your gratitude to what supports you, that support can then grow and the Universe will send you more of it.

Sometimes the support we need may not be showing up in the way that we would like. Indeed, sometimes the egos of those around us can confuse us about what is really true. We can temporarily lose touch with our true, spiritual nature and forget we are all love at the core. When outer support isn’t forthcoming, we mustn’t sit with our hands on our lap, wait for others to change first and for others to come and support us. We must always look at all the ways that we can support ourselves. Support from others has to come by God’s grace not by the demand of our egos.

The way God works might not always make sense to the human mind, the personality, but in the end the realizations and abundance are bountiful. Whatever happens, always happens as grace of God. Everything always works out for the best.

There are many ways that you can support yourself and apply the healing balm of self-love to soothe life’s harshness, which allows you to be all that you can be and show up in your fullness:

  • Unconditionally accept everything about yourself. Including the shadow.
  • Approve yourself. Don’t wait for others to come and approve of you. The only person whose approval you’ll ever need is your own.
  • Your daily spiritual practice. This could be practice such as prayer, meditation, walks in nature, yoga, selfless service and much more. Use a daily spiritual practice to keep yourself grounded in love.
  • Self-nurturing practices. Doing nice things for ourselves such as having nurturing salt baths, buying presents for ourselves, treating ourselves to something wonderful every now and then…
  • Connect with the people that nurture you. Maybe all you need is a phone call with a family member just to check in with them. Never underestimate a simple conversation with a friend or a family member. It is never a waste of time.
  • Connect with the Earth below your feet. Honor and love the Earth. Ground yourself into the planet below your feet via a grounding cord from the base of your spine. You can use the grounding technique taught at our healing centre.
  • Grounding allows your body to feel safe and secure and as a result you are able to imagine a bright and joyous future for yourself. Try the meditation class to learn the technique.
  • Your wellness practices such as observing a healthy diet, regular exercise, having massage and many others.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2016

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27 Apr

Self-love allows you to show up in your fullness

Sometimes that part of us that we consider dark and unacceptable, aka ‘the shadow’, comes up bringing with it some uncomfortable old emotions or experiences.

‘The shadow’ is really just an umbrella term for everything that is as of yet unknown to us about ourselves on a conscious level. It is ‘the stuff’ we have shoved into the unconscious for processing another time. It is our unconscious beliefs about ourselves and those are what either hold us back from living a life of fullness and beauty or what give us an unknown confidence and courage to reach for the stars.

Within what we call ‘the shadow’ are contained old addictions, tendencies, worries, fears, inadequacies, and so forth, all of which are the product of the experiences we’ve had over many many lifetimes. That stuff can be uncomfortable to be with and the knee-jerk reaction is to try to escape it all through some form of an addiction, which only serves to numb the pain. Healing, however, comes from not attempting to overcome your shortcomings or to seek to ‘improve yourself’, but to completely own and love whatever comes up. There is nothing to improve and everything to own and accept.

Self-love means to lovingly accept everything about yourself and not just the parts that are popular and easy to accept. This also means unconditionally loving your shadow. Apply self-love to yourself like a mother tends to her wounded child with utmost tenderness.

You become a teacher of love by simply loving yourself for all that you are without trying to hide or fix anything about yourself and by showing up authentic.

If you try to hide your shortcomings or to cover them up so as to appear strong and invulnerable to others, you are doing yourself and everyone else a disservice. No one benefits from perfection – there is enough emotional deadness already. Like a desert that is thirsty for rain, the world needs more people who walk in authenticity. Remaining vulnerable, soft and open no matter what is the greatest form of leadership and gift anyone can ever give to the planet right now.

There is a very old lie that both men and women with higher masculine energy carry around, it is the belief that vulnerability and sensitivity is a weakness. However, here’s the catch: it takes vulnerability to live your dreams and to reach fulfilment. It is your vulnerability that inspires others and allows them to feel safe enough to open up, too. It is vulnerability that creates loving communities.

If you were used to being discriminated or grew up in an unloving home you may still be feeling the effects of the abuse and wondering what you did to deserve that. Your inner child may still be carrying wounds. And you might still be looking outside of yourself for approval since none of it was forthcoming during your early years. However, no one else can ever know you in your fullness and approve all of you in the way that you can. The only person whose approval you’ll ever need is your own.

©Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2016

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14 Apr

A healing gives a hello to your wholeness

The whole purpose of a healing is to restore the wholeness and wellness that already exists within you. Your body and spirit have much more self-healing capacity than you may realize.

The definition of wellness is quite frankly ‘being well’. It is the harmonic relationship that exists when your chakras spin clearly without obstructions and when there’s an optimal communication between your natural body and your spiritual body. You come to a harmonic through a healing. Imagine your body like a musical instrument – you too sometimes need a tune up.

Wellness like everything else is a vibration and can easily be accessed on an energy level through visualization. The only question is: can you have it?

You might want wellness, but if a large portion of your healing energy is focused outside of yourself healing everyone else and handling issues that have nothing to do with you then don’t be surprised if very little of that energy actually remains for you to deal with your own issues and questions. You have to give to yourself first so you can then give to others.

When you are manifesting health issues on the physical level you can be sure that those began on an energy level and can be accessed and healed clairvoyantly. It is your spirit that does the healing work, but in a healing session the healer’s purpose is to facilitate that awareness and help you access that healing energy. This works through validation – when you spirit receives validation it immediately begins to access its greater potential.

Often when you need a healing and regardless of how out of whack you may feel, there is typically only one or just a few pictures that have been blocking your natural flow. Clearing that one single picture gets your energy moving and you experiencing your natural wellness again. A healing removes the troublesome picture and restores wholeness of body, emotions, mind and spirit.

An intuitive healing is different from an intuitive reading in that in a healing we put less attention on what we are letting go of and more attention on what is coming in, that is, the next step. We do not dwell on the energy that is moving out, which are the old stories, pain and invalidation. Therefore, in a healing often less communication is offered, so as to allow for the change to happen rather than holding on to the old pictures.

You can give yourself a healing by visualizing yourself in wellness. For example, instead of worrying about something – visualize the outcome you want. Using visualization is a way to access your spirit’s creative ability and is the quickest way to create change and healing. And the best part about this is that this stuff actually works!

If you would like to learn to visualize more clearly and get to know your unique energy system, why don’t you join our meditation class and start healing yourself straight away!

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2016

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30 Mar

Honoring our limits

Unlike spirit, the physical body is not invincible or eternal. It has its limitations and you would be wise to honour those limitations – they are there for a reason.

If you want to lead a happy and healthy life of wellness you have to get very familiar with your personal unique limitations and take care to honour those. Otherwise you could set yourself up for a lot of misery later down the line.

That is not to say you should give up any and all effort as soon as you bump up against even the slightest challenge. Of course not. When the time comes, you would still occasionally want to push past your limiting beliefs, addictions or comfort zone. However, be aware if you are coming from grace and surrender or brute force. Your body is the most accurate psychic tool for letting you know how you are handling your growth periods.

Pressure, demands or competition from others may make you feel guilty or shameful about your humanness and believe you are weak if you say ‘no’, when you could be doing more, working harder and just spreading yourself super-thin trying to please everyone. Learning to set boundaries and saying ‘no’ is a big lesson for you peacemakers and unconscious healers out there.

It is a spiritual perfect picture that dictates that one should be able to achieve anything without having occasional rest, recovery or plain downtime. This is very true for the eternal and forever regenerating spirit, but not so true for the body. If pushed past its natural limits for an extended period of time without proper rest, the body will eventually create downtime for itself through illness.

You don’t have to play God for anyone, you don’t have to be perfect. A perfect picture is the result of judgement – it is not the truth or reality.

When you push past your limitations trying to be everything for everyone, you are sacrificing yourself and your own needs. This doesn’t do anyone any good, especially you. You are always teaching by your example and when you sacrifice yourself you are setting the energy and others will match to it. This will make for a whole bunch of very unhappy people, because sacrifice is an energy leak. It is not nurturing, healing or wholesome in any way.

On the other hand, when you honour your limitations and set your boundaries you will set the perfect example to others for how to take good care of oneself. An example of how to love yourself and be your own best friend. By honouring your limitations and lovingly setting your boundaries you are actually creating the space for others to show up authentic too.

Here are some practical steps that you can take to begin to honour your natural limits straight away …

  • Resting when you need to
  • Saying ‘no’ when you don’t feel like doing something
  • Not cramming your to-do-list full of unrealistic tasks
  • Setting realistic goals for yourself
  • Going more slowly
  • Eating the kinds of foods that are good for your body
  • Walking away from anything that doesn’t feel good
  • Choosing to be kind to yourself even when others aren’t

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2016

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22 Mar

Handling change gracefully

The nature of our everyday lives is constant change. It is a universal truth. It is how we evolve. You can count on things to continue to change. And this is a good thing.

Sometimes, however, change around us can happen very rapidly and events can seem to move a little too fast. This tends to be the case especially during big astrological events such as eclipses, full moons, Earth shifts or other metaphysical influences that affect us as a collective. Something that is old and worn-out is now on its way out and something new and as of yet unknown is on its way in. Change comes with growing pains.

The physical body needs comfort, security and familiarity to feel safe and nurtured and all that new energy can be overwhelming for it to process in a short period of time. That tends to light up those survival instincts and blow open your first chakra. The first chakra, which is located at the base of your spine, processes your physical body’s information and handles energies such as survival, home, family, finances, security, cultural programming, health and your eating and sleeping habits. While dealing with change the first chakra tends to get lit up with fears of not having enough or possibly not surviving.

The knee-jerk reaction is to go into effort, try real hard to make things work again as they did before and cling on to the familiarity of what was. The healing solution, however, is essentially very simple: to trust the direction in which things are going and to let go of wanting to know how it will all play itself out.

The best way to keep up with rapid changes is to let go and let your essence take care of the details rather than trying to micro-manage it all on your own from the analyser. Simply give all your fears, worries and concerns over to your essence, aka your spirit, and have essence handle it all for you. Just like that. And ease and grace can return into your life once again. Sounds wonderful, doesn’t it? But can you have that?

When adjusting to changes, it’s essential to give your body plenty of time to readjust and process. You may need extra naps. You may need time to just be. You may need to let some tears out. You may need lots of reassurance. Ask for your needs to be met. But let go of what was so that what wants to be will be.

There are new ways of being awaiting their turn: new mock-ups, new creations, new alliances, new friendships. But you have to be willing to let go of the past in order for the new and wonderful to have room to come in.

So how can you most effectively ‘let go’ or ‘release’? Have you ever considered grounded meditation? Gentle grounded meditation, where you sit comfortably in an upright chair, is the best way to effectively handle any extra energy you may have picked up and to release anything that does not belong to you. You pick up energy into your aura even when you don’t really consider yourself very sensitive or empathic. The thing with carrying energy in your space that isn’t yours is that you can’t solve pain or questions that don’t belong to you.

Grounding is the tool with which to safely release any excess energy. You can use grounding to connect your first chakra to the centre of the planet to calm your body and to give it nurturing. Grounding and other psychic tools are accessed through your natural gift of visualization.

Gentle meditation time can make it possible for you to get back in touch with your own energy and your own needs again. From that intuitive space of neutrality, just being and awareness you will be equipped to handle changes gracefully rather than dramatically.

You might want to try the six week psychic meditation class that I teach both in person here in Eastbourne as well as a correspondence course accessible via phone conferencing. In this program you will learn many wonderful energywork tools that help you to keep your space no matter what the outer circumstances are.

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