29 Aug

Soul age perspective

When people put pressure, expectations and demands on you based on their own limited perspective, you may end up feeling invalidated or unseen. The remedy here is to lovingly express your truths in order to take back your freedom.

It’s very easy for these situations to crop up around family where you may be expected to fulfill roles that you do not like or feel comfortable in. You may even still be carrying around old expectations from your parents even if you are no longer in contact with them – the pictures are still there. There’s no need to become defensive or to take anyone personally, because everyone are being and doing their best with where they currently are at in their own spiritual evolution and paths.

Spiritually speaking all of us have a different history of incarnations and different experience of living in physical bodies. The different ways of doing and seeing things are based on different soul age perspective.

Young souls learn through doing, competition, action, being better than others. They seek to dominate rather than co-operate. The third chakra is the most dominant chakra for them and the main lessons they are learning are around willpower and energy management.

Mature souls learn through deep emotions, drama, relationships, going deep within and creativity. The dominant chakra for them is the fourth chakra and the primary lesson they are learning has to do with self-love.

Old souls learn through teaching others, philosophy, spirituality, going deep, high and basically everywhere. The Old soul perspective has the capacity for unconditional love and is all-embracing at its best. the most dominant chakra for them is the fifth chakra and the primary lessons they are learning are around authentic self-expression.

The Mature soul can easily do the things the Young soul does if asked to do so, but would feel incomplete or insufficient. In the same way, the Old soul can do the things the Young souls do and the things the Mature souls do, but would feel unfulfilled and unhappy when not living up to their fullest potential.

Truth is, you have a unique role to play here on Earth and only you can truly know what it is. If you really want to make a difference around here, you need to take the time to still the noise within and around you, go within, meditate and commune with your Essence in order to find out what your true purpose is. Find out what you true soul age perspective is so you can give your highest and deepest gift to humanity.

If you are surrounded by others who are younger souls in soul age perspective, it is easy to feel invalidated and you may begin to try and match them at their level. Doing this may be easier since you will avoid condemnation and being seen as the weird one or the odd one out. However, the price you will pay is that you will feel unfulfilled and unhappy.

For example, Old souls need a lot of time to just be and do very little so they can process and explore energy on a spiritual level. While the body may be relatively inactive physically, there is a lot going on behind the scenes! So, drop any judgements you may have about yourself and others. Also, you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone either.

If you are waiting for others to come and validate you, you may end up waiting a very long time indeed. Instead, be the leader and take the time to go within and validate yourself. No one can truly know you as well as you do, so it is up to you to build a loving and trusting relationship with yourself.

A good way to start connecting with your own truth is to meditate. ‘Meditation 1’, the basic intuitive skills class, begins soon in September. Enrol in the psychic kindergarten in order to learn the tools necessary to kick out any energy from your space that is not yours, so you have more space to be your true authentic self.

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25 Feb

The psychic child within

Many of the stern adults of today were once sensitive and psychic children. All children are intuitive and own their gifts with ease. However, as they grow older, they may not have permission to use their abilities and as a result lose touch with them.

Let’s be very clear: there is absolutely nothing woo-woo about being intuitive. The idea that it is something mystical or magical in a negative way comes from fears and limited thinking that have been conditioned upon us over the ages. It is an entirely natural ability that comes with being human. No extra effort required.

Put it this way, if you have a soul, then you are psychic. Simple as that. Using your ability means getting in touch with that part of yourself we call ‘the soul’ or whatever else you want to call it. It is of course much more complex than just ‘a soul’, but to simplify we can say it is that part of you that is connected with the source of all answers and is all you need for your healing and well-being.

The easiest and quickest way to access your intuition is primarily through imagination. You can also connect through sensations, feelings, sounds or knowingness, but imagination is the way that is most fun and natural. You may not think you are very imaginative, but if you can envision the simple image of an apple, then you already have what it takes to receive communication from your spirit. Now the task becomes to quiet the noise within and around you down enough so as to be able to hear the often subtle voice of your soul.

Daydreaming is a very fun and joyful way through which children access their own answers. They do this very naturally and without making a fuss about it. Children have not yet been heavily conditioned by those around them, so they allow their imagination and their spirits to wander and play around without restrictions. It is the fundamental curiosity and sense of wonder that drives them to ask the questions and receive the answers. Children are walking and talking geniuses and there is much we could learn from them.

Many of the adults today live their lives carrying around with them the fears, conditioning and the lies handed to them from their parents, authorities or other adults around them. These lies and responsibilities, that they accepted without any questioning, clothed them in an imaginary cloak of security, which was supposed to grant them success in life and keep them safe, but in reality has done nothing else than block them from seeing themselves and those around them clearly. The core lie here is that they cannot access their own answers and couldn’t possibly be psychic. The abilities are there, however, the only question remains: to which extent does any given person choose to use their abilities? Some people passionately pursue their intuitive capacity, while others may want to run from it and turn it off completely.

The basic intuitive skills class is the psychic kindergarten where your inner child gets a hello and you get the chance to slowly begin to nurture and turn own your natural abilities again. You get to be the child again and grow, play and have fun in a safe and supportive learning environment.

Next class series is beginning on March 11 at the Eastbourne Natural Fitness Centre. There are a few open spaces left. Click here to find out more and to ground your spot.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2017

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10 Feb

A revolution of the heart

This year has barely begun and already we are seeing global movements unlike any other. Get ready for the most amazing year in human history ever! A revolution is happening and it’s happening in people’s hearts.

We have all been waiting for this time of change for a long long time and now it’s finally here. As a species, we humans have been severely divided from one another by our politics, religion and even fear-based media. We have spent our lives in isolation and seclusion from one another. This has been a fragmented and lonely planet for many of us. But as the few brave people step up, speak up and get their voices heard, more and more people start to join in. We are uniting. No one gets left behind.

Thanks to the fear-based propaganda of the tyrants like Mr. Trump and others like him all across the globe, civilians are finally finding out what an immovable force and a super power they really are when they come together and demand to be heard. People are no longer putting up with things that insult their souls. As was the case with the ‘Women’s March’ in the US. It was an ocean of pink that flooded the streets and opened the hearts of millions upon millions of others everywhere on the planet.

Coming together means realising the unity of all – the good, the bad and the in-between. It means realising that we are all one. Different sides of the same coin as they say. Indeed, it all contributes to the whole and the overall forward movement. In fact, Mr. Trump did not start this revolution, it did not begin because of him or thanks to him.

This revolution was already a long time coming and D. Trump is simply a piece of this huge global change we are all experiencing. There is no one to blame.

However, just because it’s all happening ‘in divine timing’ does not mean it’s fine to carry on as usual and keep putting up with old destructive patterns. No. Those old ways have worn out their welcome. Now is not the time to sit on the sidelines – now is the time to move forward and to stand up for your values.

Women have been repressed by the patriarchy for thousands of years and labelled ‘the weaker sex’. Studying the female biological stamina versus the male biological stamina, I’m not entirely convinced that this is actually even the case! However, with the global change already underway, we will see matriarchy rise and shine like never before. And perhaps the most beautiful and healing thing about the feminine power is its ability to create a revolution that is free from violence. Its ability to create change through gentleness. There is of course still the undercurrent of divine anger against injustice and unfairness, but as we have seen, it is being channeled wisely towards divine action.

Over the coming year and beyond, we are going to witness acts of solidarity and unity with the repressed and downtrodden in a way that none of us have ever seen before in our lifetimes. Maybe even never in human history. Something extra-ordinary is happening right before our very own eyes.

The revolution that is taking place is the revolution of the heart. A global healing is happening and more and more people of different perspectives, cultural backgrounds, race and religion are joining in. With acts of love, courage, brotherhood and community, they are standing up to those that try to repress and divide them. The old patriarchal ways are being made obsolete. And we are coming together not just as people of different countries and cultural backgrounds, but as creatures of the same species. We are indeed brothers and sisters.

In the dark ages, greedy kings and rulers of the lands abused their people and claimed sole authority on what was true and got away with it. That was easy to do because there was very little information available and people were uneducated. Now, in the Age of Aquarius, the age of information, those kinds of leaders have worn out their welcome and then some! The old Tyrannosaurus rex type of leaders that want to lull us into a state of apathy and dis-empowerment are now nothing more than a mere relic of the past. People have awakened and continue to do so. We are so very blessed to be alive in this day and age.

While we definitely want to remember to stay in touch with our loving core while carrying out our role in activism we must also realise it is perfectly fine to feel anger and other emotions that arise when we see injustice happening. For example, when an individual who is elected into a position of power and leadership is depriving his very own people of access to even the most basic healthcare, you know an intervention is required.

The new revolution comes from people standing together. We stand with standing rock, we stand with women, with the people of colour, with Mexicans, with gays, Muslims and everyone. No one gets to be repressed anymore. We stand in protection of our Mother Earth and do what is necessary to protect her and to prevent dramatic climate change.

Probably the best thing to come from all of this is that all those who have been previously repressed will now have enough space and permission to come forward and feel safe in the love that is abundantly pouring out to all equally and without discrimination.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2017

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24 Jan

Wanted: visionaries that can see truth, love and beauty

On the night of January the 15th, Jesus came to me in my dream-space and showed me in the first person the experiences and events around and leading up to his crucifixion. While getting nailed to a cross may not strike as a very happy image for most people, I will, however, treasure this special visitation and the gifts gained from it for the rest of my life.

Truly, I am happy beyond any level of happiness I have ever been to have received this special insight from Jesus. That is because by reaching out to me and sharing with me one of his most intimate moments with the Supreme Being he is at the same time helping me with my life task or the very reason why I have incarnated into this body and lifetime. Jesus was without a doubt a great leader and a visionary who taught through his example the healing power of love and trust and stood up for those whose voices had not been heard before. Many, many miracles have been documented of the healings that he performed.

Interestingly, January 15 was also Martin Luther King’s birthday, who is another man that facilitated great societal change. Like Jesus, he inspired the masses with his impassioned speeches, spoke of choosing love over fear and stood up for the less advantaged. Both of these extraordinary men had a burning, passionate love for mankind and a great intolerance for hate, greed and injustice of any kind. As is appropriate for all true spiritual leaders throughout history, both of them also operated from the highest integrity, promoted equality for all and fiercely stood up for what is right.

Jesus, Martin Luther King and many other great leaders who have walked among us through the ages have all had something powerful working for them, namely: the gift of higher vision. They had the incredible ability to envision and take action towards a loving, kind and a beautiful existence for us all. And their vision was indeed very needed to lift us all as a collective up and out of the heaviness of our ignorance, unconsciousness, divisiveness and fear. Fortunately for us all, higher vision is an ability that can be accessed by everyone and isn’t exclusive to only a few extraordinary men and women.

Indeed, visualisation, which is a natural ability, is more than ‘just’ visualisation. When you decide to bring yourself to a visual level and allow yourself to see, you are in fact healing yourself and others, because by visualising you are accessing your spirit. And when you say hello to your spirit – magic happens.

The images you create in your mind’s eye are what will manifest into your reality. Imagination really is that powerful. So why not go ahead and imagine a peaceful, loving and beautiful existence for us all?

Nowadays with so many fear-based news stories dominating the media we need more people that say hello to the truth, love and beauty in things. Even just a few courageous individuals who stay centered on and constantly say hello to truth, love and beauty in all circumstances is what truly heals and progresses humanity right now. Humanity needs daily hellos from visionaries who step forward and speak up for what is right, visionaries who create beautiful works of art and visionaries that heal simply with a compassionate glance and their beautiful smiles.

In our present day and age we need leadership like Jesus, Martin Luther King and other beings like these who can see the value, worth and beauty of each and every one of us beyond what the appearances seem to be. We need leaders that can see beyond competition, our net worth or how we stack up against others in comparison. Humanity as a whole needs leaders now that teach from unconditional love and spread it around for us all through their decisive actions.

The scales of justice tip over to the side of injustice every time someone chooses to degrade, bully, belittle or otherwise invalidate another human being. And when one of us suffers – all of us suffer. It is the spiritual law.

The true leaders of today do not divide or separate us, but unite us through love and encourage each and every one of us to be our truest, most optimal selves. They reassure that we are loved no matter what. I say yes to a leader, who would invite me to a wild barefoot shamanic dancing and singing party where I could let go of all of my inhibitions and just be my most authentic self. That would be a wild non-alcoholic and vegan party, of course.

After all the encounters with Jesus and other master beings recently, I keep getting the comforting message from the Universe that you can proceed with your greatest joy and life purpose here and have the innocence and trust of a child that whatever you need will be provided as and when needed. “Thou shalt not want” doesn’t mean you should have no desires, but that you will never have to go without the food, love, shelter, kindness or whatever other sustenance that you need to nourish yourself. All that is needed to invite in this beautiful energy is a little more daily gratitude for what you already have and all will truly be well.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2017

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14 Nov

Take your time

We are always in a hurry to get to the next ‘big thing’. Same happens as we move through the tasks in a day: we go from one thing to the next without taking a proper break. It’s like the disease of this century. There never seems to be enough time to just sit, breathe and be.

Having your to-do-list crammed full of items can be like an addiction. People even brag about having a lot to do as if it were a good thing. They pride themselves on multitasking and are always chasing more activity, more money, more this or that. God forbid if you sit still for five minutes and just breathe.

Living in this way, always hurrying somewhere, you are living with a large portion of your energy either projected out into the future or stuck in the past. As in, “I will be happy when … ” – you fill the blank. To a clairvoyant it will look like your aura is projected out in front of you. With little of your energy available to you in the present, you can easily become diluted, spread too thin and simply burned out.

Always having a lot to do and a chasing a lot of things to have throws things out of balance. When your energy is spread out to the past and the future, there simply won’t be enough of you in the present and you need your energy in the present to heal your body. We can restore that balance by grounding ourselves into the present by taking more time with each task, dwelling on them a little longer to extract the full value from them and honouring the body’s limits.

A healing happens when you ground yourself back into this present moment and choose to let go of all the non-essential. It is such a beautiful gift to yourself to instead slow down, choose to have fewer things to do and savour each moment.

This business of life and living, it’s not all about doing and having. Just being is also a worthy companion.

So, who or what has control over your schedule today? Does your to-do-list include breathing breaks? Are you the one choosing your tasks or is there some other energy outside of you controlling your space? Could it be your mother’s expectations of you? Take a look right now!

Imagine if there was nothing you ‘had’ to do, then what would you want or choose to do? What comes to you as an answer to this question is probably the most important thing for you to be doing right now! And that thing may in fact be doing nothing in particular at all and simply breathing.

So, today take back ownership of your space and take your time. Slow down and take your time when you have your favourite cup of tea, when you watch your favourite TV series, when you walk through a forest, when you water your plants, when you feed your dogs, when you play with your children or when you do your work. These moments are precious and will never repeat in exactly the same way again. Nothing is permanent. Infuse lots of gratitude, appreciation and beauty into each and every moment. Be totally present and savour each moment before moving on to the next thing.

Imagine if you were infinitely lovable and taken care of by an extremely compassionate Universe, savouring each moment without hurrying to the next thing would indeed be the most beautiful gift you could possibly give to yourself. Why are you in a hurry anyways when the whole of eternity is yours to play with!

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2016

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30 Oct

Have fun with your growth periods

We all get those times in our lives, when nothing makes sense and it may be hard to sit down, relax and to just take it easy. You may be handling some discomfort or releasing some old pain. It’s totally okay to not have a clue where you are heading with all this.

Your body may be changing, your world views may be changing, your energy may be changing. You may recently have thrown out a whole bunch of old pictures about yourself or the world that you live in and got into the process of integrating a whole new you. This takes a lot of energy and patience from both yourself as well as those around you and there is no hurry through it.

A growth period is when you as a spiritual being are changing and it’s not always a very comfortable space to be in.

Whatever kind of growth period you may be into right now, please be very gentle with yourself. There is no perfect way to grow, no rules or regulations. You are doing the very best you can already. Indeed, you are pure love at your core.

So, on a more practical level, how do you handle these periods? Everyone sure has their own ways, but the best tool for handling growth periods with grace is meditation. Meditation makes it possible to instantly regain your space and your composure. When you sit in a grounded meditation space with awareness resting in the middle of your head – you reclaim your space. You take back your space to just be, to breathe and to have no rules.

I often talk about grounded meditation in this blog simply because it is such a wonderful and powerful tool for healing yourself and subsequently also for healing those around you.

With meditation you go from pushing and fretting your way through a growth period to gracefully gliding through it. Imagine yourself on a surfboard masterfully riding that huge wave of growth. Yes, you can have fun with it!

When you go into your meditation space you can come to awareness of the energies you have been carrying around with you. Instead of being at the effect of the energies in your space and letting them dictate to you how to live your life, you can be the one to choose what you want to keep here and what you want to let go. You can easily release pain, effort, resistance, heaviness, self-doubt, invalidation and all that is weighing you down. You can be your own boss and give your day a colour you like. Again, you are free to make it fun!

With daily meditation as your ally you can be in a growth period and still have fun and play like a child. When you get your breathing space back, you will know and experience in a very visceral way that no matter what, all is well.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2016

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27 Sep

Where are you heading?

Who wrote the script to your life? Are you the one consciously choosing how to live your life and where you are heading by consciously changing the script every day or are you following someone else’s story? Are you consciously choosing where you want to go next or are you running on autopilot?

We are all run by the stories we tell ourselves, the pictures we carry around in our spaces and the programming we have accepted as our truth. Those may be happy and heroic stories or stories of sadness and victimhood. A happy story lives in the present moment while the victim story wants to predict future. If a story doesn’t feel good and doesn’t lead to joy, then it may be time to let go of that story. You have that freedom.

Often when pain comes up, people want a fortune-teller to make predictions about their future and have a guru hand them a clearly defined map for what comes next. The thing is, however, that the future is not predetermined. There is no set destiny that dictates where you are supposed to be heading and what you should be doing. There is no ‘should’ or ‘have to’ – those are simply limitations that come from expectations and demands from others.

You as a spiritual being chose to lower your vibration and to incarnate into this body in this particular time-frame in order to experience certain things here on the physical plane. You have a goal and a purpose for the lifetime. However, there is no set way in which to reach this goal – you get to choose how you want to play. You have an energy that is entirely unique only to you and only you can choose how you want to experience being in a body. Your body is your mock-up and only you have the power to choose where you want to go with it.

We ourselves get to choose what is around the corner for us. We can’t choose for others, but we can choose for ourselves.

Generally, what sets the tone for where you are heading is the energy in your space. It’s the choices you are making right now, the programming from others that you have accepted as truth, the images you visualize daily, the thoughts you think and the words you speak right now. It all really depends on what you bring your attention to, focus on and breath life into and that can all be changed through energywork, meditation and visualization.

The only way to begin to heal the stories that you tell is to step into full ownership of where you are right now. Only from this space of spiritual accountability can you truly begin to see and own what is yours and release what is not yours.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2016

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14 Jul

Healing from the inside out

When you comes across pain in others either on a global scale or on a personal level, you get lit up. It is perfectly natural and it is an opportunity for you to learn something new about yourself.

The immediate knee-jerk response tends to be to want to heal, help and give advice or otherwise influence the event that you have absolutely no control over. When you are in that ‘knee-jerk response’ space you can be sure that you are matching to the drama you witnessed. Other people’s pain is very real and you need tools and awareness to sort out what belongs to you and what doesn’t.

The thing is, if you really want to help ‘heal the world’, please be aware that ‘the world’ is you. Your perceptions of the outside world and what you experience as upsetting events outside of you are reflective of something going on within you. The outer world is a mirror of the inner you. Begin healing the world by healing yourself first.

The keyword here is ‘control’. As a spiritual being in a physical body, you only ever really get to have control over your own thoughts, emotions, reactions, behaviour and energy. In other words, you only have control over your own space. You can inspire change and healing in others, but that cannot be achieved through fighting or resisting others and what they are putting out there. You only create change by being the change you want to see.

The first real step towards healing is to create space to take a good close look at what comes up for you. Try not to talk or communicate excessively when lit up as you will simply be reinforcing the pain. This is the problem the planet is facing currently – too many people communicating from a growth space instead of waiting for clarity. Have a look if what is coming up is new or some old programming. What you are experiencing isn’t something to figure out, but simply to be aware of. Once you have an awareness of what has come up for you you will be in a position to ‘work it’. Your awareness of and presence with the pain that you experience is what begins to transform it.

The truth is that you are psychic and can act on what you see, feel, experience. There are many tools that can be used. For example, visually grounding your body into the centre of the planet from the base of your spine is an immediate healing. You may want to try grounding in a meditation to give yourself some space to release any excess energy that you may have picked up and create some space for your own energy and needs. There are many other wonderful tools that you can learn in the meditation class.

Then, when you approach ‘the world’ in this way your words and actions will be guided from a clear and healed space. You will be a much-needed healing to others without as much as lifting a finger. You vibrationally set the example. No struggle or effort required.

“Go back and take care of yourself. Your body needs you. Your feelings need you. Your perceptions need you. Your suffering needs you to acknowledge it. Go home and be there for all these things.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2016

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24 Jun

Intuitive tools 101: your intuition

The beginning meditation class is the space for you to sit in spiritual validation. This psychic kindergarten space is completely free from judgement, expectation or demands and allows you to playfully connect with and trust your own answers.

The source of your own answers is your spirit and your spirit itself is of course 100% psychic already and does not need any training or development to become more psychic. Indeed, intuition and psychic abilities are entirely natural and already came with the package for you. The point of meditation in a permissive and validating environment, however, is to learn to validate and trust the communication from your spirit through your bodily sensations, feelings, emotions, images, pictures, visions or the words or sounds you hear in your inner ear. There is really nothing woo-woo about it. Being intuitive is just a matter of quieting the noise within and around you, so that you can hear, see and sense your soul’s communication.

For the sensitive and empathic ones among us the outer world can sometimes seem like a harsh place. There are many heavy energies such as fear, pain, competition, ego battles and whacks to contend with. And this is the reason why people would instinctively rather turn off their psychic abilities through activities such as denial, invalidation, over-analysis, explaining oneself to everyone, being a people pleaser, drinking coffee, drinking alcohol or taking drugs. The sensitivity and sensations can get overwhelming if we don’t know how to deal with the noise. However, turning off your intuition is counter-productive since by doing so you are also turning off a source of healing and answers.

In the beginning psychic meditation class the psychic tool of grounding is taught that helps you to take good care of your energy and to allow yourself to begin feel safe enough in your body to turn on your natural abilities again. With grounding you release any energy that is not yours and connect with your own energy instead. Your own energy clearly feels comfortable and safe for you and is your body’s preferred fuel.

The psychic meditation classes are a sanctuary space. The Hello EssenceJoy Healing Centre is founded on the recognition that you are a spiritual being and you have your own truth, your own information. This sanctuary space opens up the opportunities for you to recognise yourself as a spiritual being and for you to receive validation from within.

Your intuition grows tremendously each time you validate your spirit and your own perceptions rather than rely on outer validation. For example, in the meditation classes and in the intuitive training program students can get different answers and see different colours when looking at the same thing. However, just because students see a different colour in a readee’s Crown chakra doesn’t mean that one is right and the other is wrong. Everyone has their own unique perceptions and each is valid in their own way. There is no right or wrong, so throw that judgement out straight away.

The more you meditate and develop trust in and awareness of your intuition, the more you begin to notice the communication from your spirit and the louder it gets. It can be a very handy and practical tool in making everyday life decisions. Here’s the thing with intuition: the more repetitive an emotion, sensation or an image gets – the more important it becomes for you to pay attention to whatever the message is.

Intuition can show up in many different ways. You may get a hunch, a gut feeling, hear a phrase in your mind or any other way that it could show up in. That is your intuition turned on and working for you – no matter how you experience it. Indeed, there are different ways of experiencing intuition, but in our meditations we bring ourselves to a visual level. Visualization is the most accurate means of communicating with spirit.

What could be better, more healing or inspiring than having your own clear communication with spirit, having your own intuition turned on and fined-tuned?

Most importantly, In our meditations you learn to listen to your intuition without any judgement or expectation. The energies of judgement and expectation come from the competitive everyday life world and have to do with ‘getting it right’. When it comes to your intuition, there is nothing to ‘get right’, your intuition is yours and does not need to be explained or defended to anyone. It just needs to be validated by you. Join the meditation class to start to become friends with and listen to your intuition with 100% neutrality straight away.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2016

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27 Apr

Self-love allows you to show up in your fullness

Sometimes that part of us that we consider dark and unacceptable, aka ‘the shadow’, comes up bringing with it some uncomfortable old emotions or experiences.

‘The shadow’ is really just an umbrella term for everything that is as of yet unknown to us about ourselves on a conscious level. It is ‘the stuff’ we have shoved into the unconscious for processing another time. It is our unconscious beliefs about ourselves and those are what either hold us back from living a life of fullness and beauty or what give us an unknown confidence and courage to reach for the stars.

Within what we call ‘the shadow’ are contained old addictions, tendencies, worries, fears, inadequacies, and so forth, all of which are the product of the experiences we’ve had over many many lifetimes. That stuff can be uncomfortable to be with and the knee-jerk reaction is to try to escape it all through some form of an addiction, which only serves to numb the pain. Healing, however, comes from not attempting to overcome your shortcomings or to seek to ‘improve yourself’, but to completely own and love whatever comes up. There is nothing to improve and everything to own and accept.

Self-love means to lovingly accept everything about yourself and not just the parts that are popular and easy to accept. This also means unconditionally loving your shadow. Apply self-love to yourself like a mother tends to her wounded child with utmost tenderness.

You become a teacher of love by simply loving yourself for all that you are without trying to hide or fix anything about yourself and by showing up authentic.

If you try to hide your shortcomings or to cover them up so as to appear strong and invulnerable to others, you are doing yourself and everyone else a disservice. No one benefits from perfection – there is enough emotional deadness already. Like a desert that is thirsty for rain, the world needs more people who walk in authenticity. Remaining vulnerable, soft and open no matter what is the greatest form of leadership and gift anyone can ever give to the planet right now.

There is a very old lie that both men and women with higher masculine energy carry around, it is the belief that vulnerability and sensitivity is a weakness. However, here’s the catch: it takes vulnerability to live your dreams and to reach fulfilment. It is your vulnerability that inspires others and allows them to feel safe enough to open up, too. It is vulnerability that creates loving communities.

If you were used to being discriminated or grew up in an unloving home you may still be feeling the effects of the abuse and wondering what you did to deserve that. Your inner child may still be carrying wounds. And you might still be looking outside of yourself for approval since none of it was forthcoming during your early years. However, no one else can ever know you in your fullness and approve all of you in the way that you can. The only person whose approval you’ll ever need is your own.

©Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2016

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