When you take the time to connect with your own truth in each moment and then speak your mind gently and with assertiveness you are being loving. Honesty is a deeply loving act. While on the other hand holding back your truth and your honest words is a way of holding back your love both for yourself as well as the others.
Sometimes the truth that needs to be spoken in the moment may not be what those around or even you yourself may want to hear as it may challenge the integrity of everyone, some changes may need to be made, but it will be a tremendous healing for all. Most of all though, truth, when spoken gently with love and assertiveness will really set you free and will be a healing for all.
If you are the type of person that loathes conflict and wants to hide his head in the sand at the first sign of trouble then it may be hard for you to stand up for yourself, speak your mind and consequently say no to others. You may be into the pattern of pleasing others and always saying what they want to hear in fear of disapproval. If so, then you are drowning out the voice of your intuition and inner knowing over the noise of other people’s expectations and demands. This is soul-destroying and invalidating for your spirit and probably also very painful for you.
This kind of distance between the real you and the you that you are in the world is rooted in some sort of a childhood trauma where you were programmed by those around you to think and believe that you didn’t matter, that you were small and undeserving of love. So because of these beliefs it can be hard for you to truly be yourself and to receive the love that you so desperately need, because you believe that you don’t really deserve it. Now is time to kick out those faulty old beliefs and claim your true worth as the son or daughter of the Creator for whom nothing is impossible. God is pure compassion and has created plenty of love and resources for all so that no one’s needs ever really go without fulfilment.
Sometimes speaking your truth can be intimidating, but it is necessary for clarity, direction and healing for all. Realise that you may be holding back tremendous soul wisdom that wants to express through you by not sharing your words. You can rest assured that if you keep holding back your words and your authenticity situations will keep presenting themselves that will keep pushing your ability to speak up and express yourself in the moment.
If you feel a sense of tightness or anxiety on your neck it means there are words that need to be expressed but you’ve held them back for one reason or another. Often the reason is fearing disapproval and being rejected and abandoned by others that don’t want to hear the truth. The truth is however if those around will abandon you for speaking up then those may not be the people you want to be hanging around with anyways. It’s a win-win for all. Most importantly, at least speak that truth to yourself first, then it will be easier to express yourself to others.
If your intention is to be loving and kind and you come from that place within you when you speak, then you will naturally start to repel those with unloving focuses and intentions. It’s not something you did wrong it’s just that the Universe is ordering events and people around you to suit your true self and your true needs in order to bring you your highest fulfilment and joy. It all starts with clarifying your intentions for yourself and then expressing that either in conversation with your guardian angels, your guides or the Supreme Being. Rest assured that you are being heard and infinitely loved at all times.
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