23 Sep

Slowing down

Have you noticed the ever-increasing speed of daily living lately? There seems to be ever so much more to do and ever so little time to just be.

With so much ‘bad news’ constantly thrown at us via the media our bodies are overloaded with stress. If you are quite sensitive, then this collective stress can make it almost impossible for you to take that much needed quiet time for yourself. So many people to heal!

What is behind the inability to stop and just be is quite frankly the lack of space. I’m not talking about physical space here, although that could be a factor, too. I’m talking about energetic space – the space you need for you to be You. That space is your aura, your body and your chakras. If your space is crowded with all kinds of foreign energy, daily life can become an effort. It may seem like a lot of hard work to even just sit down and eat.

The reason why we give away our space to others is an underlying trauma or a fear-based pattern. That pattern can keep you busy as though your survival depended on it. Perhaps at one point it did!

That inner lack of space keeps you constantly on the move, constantly responding to everyone’s demands. And thus avoiding the simplicity, stillness and the elegant emptiness of the present moment. It can be quite uncomfortable to sit with the emptiness of the moment.

One of the ways you can instantly de-stress, heal yourself and allow yourself to be more present in the moment is to retreat into a natural environment such as a forest. The physical body is very instinctive and effortlessly relaxes around the healing sounds and sensations of nature. Forests have such a natural rhythm, which the body recognises and immediately begins to match to.

During my stay at our countryside home in Western Estonia throughout the months of July and August this year, I was in constant awe of how very relaxed and at ease my body felt all the time. It’s a very beautiful and healing location. Our house there is surrounded by thick forests all around. Every day I was greeted by clean air and birdsong – I found it very easy to ground myself in that space. On the other hand, this sense of ease and groundedness contrasts heavily with how my body feels while I’m staying at my apartment here in Southern England. There are woods here, of course, but I have to walk a distance to get there.

When there aren’t any forests near you, then another easy way that you can de-stress your sensitive body is to create some quiet space and meditate. You may meditate with a guided meditation audio of some kind or you could simply sit in silence, basking in the beauty of the moment. Your meditation may include chanting or visualisations as preferred. Everyone has their own way of meditating that is suitable for them – there is no perfect way to meditate, no ‘one size fits all’. I would like to invite you to notice whether you have any judgements about how you meditate. And if you do notice any, then go ahead and release those right now.

I am running weekly Sunday meditations here at our Eastbourne location at the Pannarai Healing Studio. The class is for everyone and no previous experience is required. Or if you can’t be here in person, you could join our phone classes. ‘Meditation 1’, the 6 week class, is beginning Sunday, September 24. This class is a good starting point to learning to meditate and to heal yourself.

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29 Aug

Soul age perspective

When people put pressure, expectations and demands on you based on their own limited perspective, you may end up feeling invalidated or unseen. The remedy here is to lovingly express your truths in order to take back your freedom.

It’s very easy for these situations to crop up around family where you may be expected to fulfill roles that you do not like or feel comfortable in. You may even still be carrying around old expectations from your parents even if you are no longer in contact with them – the pictures are still there. There’s no need to become defensive or to take anyone personally, because everyone are being and doing their best with where they currently are at in their own spiritual evolution and paths.

Spiritually speaking all of us have a different history of incarnations and different experience of living in physical bodies. The different ways of doing and seeing things are based on different soul age perspective.

Young souls learn through doing, competition, action, being better than others. They seek to dominate rather than co-operate. The third chakra is the most dominant chakra for them and the main lessons they are learning are around willpower and energy management.

Mature souls learn through deep emotions, drama, relationships, going deep within and creativity. The dominant chakra for them is the fourth chakra and the primary lesson they are learning has to do with self-love.

Old souls learn through teaching others, philosophy, spirituality, going deep, high and basically everywhere. The Old soul perspective has the capacity for unconditional love and is all-embracing at its best. the most dominant chakra for them is the fifth chakra and the primary lessons they are learning are around authentic self-expression.

The Mature soul can easily do the things the Young soul does if asked to do so, but would feel incomplete or insufficient. In the same way, the Old soul can do the things the Young souls do and the things the Mature souls do, but would feel unfulfilled and unhappy when not living up to their fullest potential.

Truth is, you have a unique role to play here on Earth and only you can truly know what it is. If you really want to make a difference around here, you need to take the time to still the noise within and around you, go within, meditate and commune with your Essence in order to find out what your true purpose is. Find out what you true soul age perspective is so you can give your highest and deepest gift to humanity.

If you are surrounded by others who are younger souls in soul age perspective, it is easy to feel invalidated and you may begin to try and match them at their level. Doing this may be easier since you will avoid condemnation and being seen as the weird one or the odd one out. However, the price you will pay is that you will feel unfulfilled and unhappy.

For example, Old souls need a lot of time to just be and do very little so they can process and explore energy on a spiritual level. While the body may be relatively inactive physically, there is a lot going on behind the scenes! So, drop any judgements you may have about yourself and others. Also, you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone either.

If you are waiting for others to come and validate you, you may end up waiting a very long time indeed. Instead, be the leader and take the time to go within and validate yourself. No one can truly know you as well as you do, so it is up to you to build a loving and trusting relationship with yourself.

A good way to start connecting with your own truth is to meditate. ‘Meditation 1’, the basic intuitive skills class, begins soon in September. Enrol in the psychic kindergarten in order to learn the tools necessary to kick out any energy from your space that is not yours, so you have more space to be your true authentic self.

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27 Apr

Your values create safety for you

In our everyday lives we deal with constant change and unpredictability and if we are not grounded into our own solid set of values, it can be easy to get thrown about by everyone else’s agendas.

One surefire way to tell that you may be participating in something that is not for your highest good is a sense of anxiety that seems to come out of nowhere. Your body is always communicating with you and anxiety is its way of telling you that somewhere along the line something is out of integrity. Typically there may be a situation where you need to speak up, be heard and make some changes. Whatever it may be, it is in your best interests to trust your body’s truthful guidance and wisdom.

Of course, as a sensitive and empathic being, you may also be matching to someone else’s emotional landscape. You may very well be taking on the troubles and pain of everyone else and unwittingly being the container for others to process their stuff. However, it is crucial to realise that the only person whose pain you can ever really heal and take ownership of is your own.

You can only gently guide others to the wellspring of their inner wisdom, but you can not make them drink.

The healing step here is to always seek to release what is not yours and always come back home to yourself. It might help to take a look at why you may be matching to others and see if you can perhaps get grounded within yourself instead.

A well known practice for many new intuitives, and especially for many in the New Age community, is that of ‘shielding’ or ‘protecting’ oneself with a bubble or any other similar intention. The idea behind this is to ‘keep out’ other people’s stuff. And underlying this idea is the fear that others can somehow intrude upon our spaces, that we are somehow victims to their energy. Quite frankly, the truth about this technique is that it is isolating. It is not at all necessary to use ‘shielding’ when we are in touch with who we really are. The healing step here is again to bring your awareness back to yourself and see what is being triggered in you to want to protect yourself. Maybe you are feeling vulnerable?

The only protection as such that you’ll ever need is to have a solid inner core of boundaries and clarity about who you are and who you are not. You can always lean on this inner core when the times are difficult somehow.

Instead of ‘shielding’ I would recommend using grounding instead. You can use your connection with the Earth below your feet to release what is not yours and to connect with the truths in your heart. Grounding is a cornerstone of the ‘Basic intuitive skills’ class and all of the intuitive practices at the Hello EssenceJoy Healing Centre.

The beautiful thing here is that the Universe supports you when you are operating from your truest, most authentic self. Being true to yourself may seem like a difficult task in a world where we are daily required to wear masks and repress ourselves by those that can’t handle the truth. You may even feel overwhelmed by this idea, but remember this: you are only ever given as much as you can handle. When you take healing steps for you, you are also supporting, teaching and healing many, many more individuals than you may even have a conscious awareness of. Indeed, you don’t have to write a book, teach a seminar or even utter a single word. Simply vibrating from your own truest self is the greatest healing and a teaching to all.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2017

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25 Feb

The psychic child within

Many of the stern adults of today were once sensitive and psychic children. All children are intuitive and own their gifts with ease. However, as they grow older, they may not have permission to use their abilities and as a result lose touch with them.

Let’s be very clear: there is absolutely nothing woo-woo about being intuitive. The idea that it is something mystical or magical in a negative way comes from fears and limited thinking that have been conditioned upon us over the ages. It is an entirely natural ability that comes with being human. No extra effort required.

Put it this way, if you have a soul, then you are psychic. Simple as that. Using your ability means getting in touch with that part of yourself we call ‘the soul’ or whatever else you want to call it. It is of course much more complex than just ‘a soul’, but to simplify we can say it is that part of you that is connected with the source of all answers and is all you need for your healing and well-being.

The easiest and quickest way to access your intuition is primarily through imagination. You can also connect through sensations, feelings, sounds or knowingness, but imagination is the way that is most fun and natural. You may not think you are very imaginative, but if you can envision the simple image of an apple, then you already have what it takes to receive communication from your spirit. Now the task becomes to quiet the noise within and around you down enough so as to be able to hear the often subtle voice of your soul.

Daydreaming is a very fun and joyful way through which children access their own answers. They do this very naturally and without making a fuss about it. Children have not yet been heavily conditioned by those around them, so they allow their imagination and their spirits to wander and play around without restrictions. It is the fundamental curiosity and sense of wonder that drives them to ask the questions and receive the answers. Children are walking and talking geniuses and there is much we could learn from them.

Many of the adults today live their lives carrying around with them the fears, conditioning and the lies handed to them from their parents, authorities or other adults around them. These lies and responsibilities, that they accepted without any questioning, clothed them in an imaginary cloak of security, which was supposed to grant them success in life and keep them safe, but in reality has done nothing else than block them from seeing themselves and those around them clearly. The core lie here is that they cannot access their own answers and couldn’t possibly be psychic. The abilities are there, however, the only question remains: to which extent does any given person choose to use their abilities? Some people passionately pursue their intuitive capacity, while others may want to run from it and turn it off completely.

The basic intuitive skills class is the psychic kindergarten where your inner child gets a hello and you get the chance to slowly begin to nurture and turn own your natural abilities again. You get to be the child again and grow, play and have fun in a safe and supportive learning environment.

Next class series is beginning on March 11 at the Eastbourne Natural Fitness Centre. There are a few open spaces left. Click here to find out more and to ground your spot.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2017

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10 Feb

A revolution of the heart

This year has barely begun and already we are seeing global movements unlike any other. Get ready for the most amazing year in human history ever! A revolution is happening and it’s happening in people’s hearts.

We have all been waiting for this time of change for a long long time and now it’s finally here. As a species, we humans have been severely divided from one another by our politics, religion and even fear-based media. We have spent our lives in isolation and seclusion from one another. This has been a fragmented and lonely planet for many of us. But as the few brave people step up, speak up and get their voices heard, more and more people start to join in. We are uniting. No one gets left behind.

Thanks to the fear-based propaganda of the tyrants like Mr. Trump and others like him all across the globe, civilians are finally finding out what an immovable force and a super power they really are when they come together and demand to be heard. People are no longer putting up with things that insult their souls. As was the case with the ‘Women’s March’ in the US. It was an ocean of pink that flooded the streets and opened the hearts of millions upon millions of others everywhere on the planet.

Coming together means realising the unity of all – the good, the bad and the in-between. It means realising that we are all one. Different sides of the same coin as they say. Indeed, it all contributes to the whole and the overall forward movement. In fact, Mr. Trump did not start this revolution, it did not begin because of him or thanks to him.

This revolution was already a long time coming and D. Trump is simply a piece of this huge global change we are all experiencing. There is no one to blame.

However, just because it’s all happening ‘in divine timing’ does not mean it’s fine to carry on as usual and keep putting up with old destructive patterns. No. Those old ways have worn out their welcome. Now is not the time to sit on the sidelines – now is the time to move forward and to stand up for your values.

Women have been repressed by the patriarchy for thousands of years and labelled ‘the weaker sex’. Studying the female biological stamina versus the male biological stamina, I’m not entirely convinced that this is actually even the case! However, with the global change already underway, we will see matriarchy rise and shine like never before. And perhaps the most beautiful and healing thing about the feminine power is its ability to create a revolution that is free from violence. Its ability to create change through gentleness. There is of course still the undercurrent of divine anger against injustice and unfairness, but as we have seen, it is being channeled wisely towards divine action.

Over the coming year and beyond, we are going to witness acts of solidarity and unity with the repressed and downtrodden in a way that none of us have ever seen before in our lifetimes. Maybe even never in human history. Something extra-ordinary is happening right before our very own eyes.

The revolution that is taking place is the revolution of the heart. A global healing is happening and more and more people of different perspectives, cultural backgrounds, race and religion are joining in. With acts of love, courage, brotherhood and community, they are standing up to those that try to repress and divide them. The old patriarchal ways are being made obsolete. And we are coming together not just as people of different countries and cultural backgrounds, but as creatures of the same species. We are indeed brothers and sisters.

In the dark ages, greedy kings and rulers of the lands abused their people and claimed sole authority on what was true and got away with it. That was easy to do because there was very little information available and people were uneducated. Now, in the Age of Aquarius, the age of information, those kinds of leaders have worn out their welcome and then some! The old Tyrannosaurus rex type of leaders that want to lull us into a state of apathy and dis-empowerment are now nothing more than a mere relic of the past. People have awakened and continue to do so. We are so very blessed to be alive in this day and age.

While we definitely want to remember to stay in touch with our loving core while carrying out our role in activism we must also realise it is perfectly fine to feel anger and other emotions that arise when we see injustice happening. For example, when an individual who is elected into a position of power and leadership is depriving his very own people of access to even the most basic healthcare, you know an intervention is required.

The new revolution comes from people standing together. We stand with standing rock, we stand with women, with the people of colour, with Mexicans, with gays, Muslims and everyone. No one gets to be repressed anymore. We stand in protection of our Mother Earth and do what is necessary to protect her and to prevent dramatic climate change.

Probably the best thing to come from all of this is that all those who have been previously repressed will now have enough space and permission to come forward and feel safe in the love that is abundantly pouring out to all equally and without discrimination.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2017

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24 Jan

Wanted: visionaries that can see truth, love and beauty

On the night of January the 15th, Jesus came to me in my dream-space and showed me in the first person the experiences and events around and leading up to his crucifixion. While getting nailed to a cross may not strike as a very happy image for most people, I will, however, treasure this special visitation and the gifts gained from it for the rest of my life.

Truly, I am happy beyond any level of happiness I have ever been to have received this special insight from Jesus. That is because by reaching out to me and sharing with me one of his most intimate moments with the Supreme Being he is at the same time helping me with my life task or the very reason why I have incarnated into this body and lifetime. Jesus was without a doubt a great leader and a visionary who taught through his example the healing power of love and trust and stood up for those whose voices had not been heard before. Many, many miracles have been documented of the healings that he performed.

Interestingly, January 15 was also Martin Luther King’s birthday, who is another man that facilitated great societal change. Like Jesus, he inspired the masses with his impassioned speeches, spoke of choosing love over fear and stood up for the less advantaged. Both of these extraordinary men had a burning, passionate love for mankind and a great intolerance for hate, greed and injustice of any kind. As is appropriate for all true spiritual leaders throughout history, both of them also operated from the highest integrity, promoted equality for all and fiercely stood up for what is right.

Jesus, Martin Luther King and many other great leaders who have walked among us through the ages have all had something powerful working for them, namely: the gift of higher vision. They had the incredible ability to envision and take action towards a loving, kind and a beautiful existence for us all. And their vision was indeed very needed to lift us all as a collective up and out of the heaviness of our ignorance, unconsciousness, divisiveness and fear. Fortunately for us all, higher vision is an ability that can be accessed by everyone and isn’t exclusive to only a few extraordinary men and women.

Indeed, visualisation, which is a natural ability, is more than ‘just’ visualisation. When you decide to bring yourself to a visual level and allow yourself to see, you are in fact healing yourself and others, because by visualising you are accessing your spirit. And when you say hello to your spirit – magic happens.

The images you create in your mind’s eye are what will manifest into your reality. Imagination really is that powerful. So why not go ahead and imagine a peaceful, loving and beautiful existence for us all?

Nowadays with so many fear-based news stories dominating the media we need more people that say hello to the truth, love and beauty in things. Even just a few courageous individuals who stay centered on and constantly say hello to truth, love and beauty in all circumstances is what truly heals and progresses humanity right now. Humanity needs daily hellos from visionaries who step forward and speak up for what is right, visionaries who create beautiful works of art and visionaries that heal simply with a compassionate glance and their beautiful smiles.

In our present day and age we need leadership like Jesus, Martin Luther King and other beings like these who can see the value, worth and beauty of each and every one of us beyond what the appearances seem to be. We need leaders that can see beyond competition, our net worth or how we stack up against others in comparison. Humanity as a whole needs leaders now that teach from unconditional love and spread it around for us all through their decisive actions.

The scales of justice tip over to the side of injustice every time someone chooses to degrade, bully, belittle or otherwise invalidate another human being. And when one of us suffers – all of us suffer. It is the spiritual law.

The true leaders of today do not divide or separate us, but unite us through love and encourage each and every one of us to be our truest, most optimal selves. They reassure that we are loved no matter what. I say yes to a leader, who would invite me to a wild barefoot shamanic dancing and singing party where I could let go of all of my inhibitions and just be my most authentic self. That would be a wild non-alcoholic and vegan party, of course.

After all the encounters with Jesus and other master beings recently, I keep getting the comforting message from the Universe that you can proceed with your greatest joy and life purpose here and have the innocence and trust of a child that whatever you need will be provided as and when needed. “Thou shalt not want” doesn’t mean you should have no desires, but that you will never have to go without the food, love, shelter, kindness or whatever other sustenance that you need to nourish yourself. All that is needed to invite in this beautiful energy is a little more daily gratitude for what you already have and all will truly be well.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2017

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14 Nov

Take your time

We are always in a hurry to get to the next ‘big thing’. Same happens as we move through the tasks in a day: we go from one thing to the next without taking a proper break. It’s like the disease of this century. There never seems to be enough time to just sit, breathe and be.

Having your to-do-list crammed full of items can be like an addiction. People even brag about having a lot to do as if it were a good thing. They pride themselves on multitasking and are always chasing more activity, more money, more this or that. God forbid if you sit still for five minutes and just breathe.

Living in this way, always hurrying somewhere, you are living with a large portion of your energy either projected out into the future or stuck in the past. As in, “I will be happy when … ” – you fill the blank. To a clairvoyant it will look like your aura is projected out in front of you. With little of your energy available to you in the present, you can easily become diluted, spread too thin and simply burned out.

Always having a lot to do and a chasing a lot of things to have throws things out of balance. When your energy is spread out to the past and the future, there simply won’t be enough of you in the present and you need your energy in the present to heal your body. We can restore that balance by grounding ourselves into the present by taking more time with each task, dwelling on them a little longer to extract the full value from them and honouring the body’s limits.

A healing happens when you ground yourself back into this present moment and choose to let go of all the non-essential. It is such a beautiful gift to yourself to instead slow down, choose to have fewer things to do and savour each moment.

This business of life and living, it’s not all about doing and having. Just being is also a worthy companion.

So, who or what has control over your schedule today? Does your to-do-list include breathing breaks? Are you the one choosing your tasks or is there some other energy outside of you controlling your space? Could it be your mother’s expectations of you? Take a look right now!

Imagine if there was nothing you ‘had’ to do, then what would you want or choose to do? What comes to you as an answer to this question is probably the most important thing for you to be doing right now! And that thing may in fact be doing nothing in particular at all and simply breathing.

So, today take back ownership of your space and take your time. Slow down and take your time when you have your favourite cup of tea, when you watch your favourite TV series, when you walk through a forest, when you water your plants, when you feed your dogs, when you play with your children or when you do your work. These moments are precious and will never repeat in exactly the same way again. Nothing is permanent. Infuse lots of gratitude, appreciation and beauty into each and every moment. Be totally present and savour each moment before moving on to the next thing.

Imagine if you were infinitely lovable and taken care of by an extremely compassionate Universe, savouring each moment without hurrying to the next thing would indeed be the most beautiful gift you could possibly give to yourself. Why are you in a hurry anyways when the whole of eternity is yours to play with!

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2016

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30 Oct

Have fun with your growth periods

We all get those times in our lives, when nothing makes sense and it may be hard to sit down, relax and to just take it easy. You may be handling some discomfort or releasing some old pain. It’s totally okay to not have a clue where you are heading with all this.

Your body may be changing, your world views may be changing, your energy may be changing. You may recently have thrown out a whole bunch of old pictures about yourself or the world that you live in and got into the process of integrating a whole new you. This takes a lot of energy and patience from both yourself as well as those around you and there is no hurry through it.

A growth period is when you as a spiritual being are changing and it’s not always a very comfortable space to be in.

Whatever kind of growth period you may be into right now, please be very gentle with yourself. There is no perfect way to grow, no rules or regulations. You are doing the very best you can already. Indeed, you are pure love at your core.

So, on a more practical level, how do you handle these periods? Everyone sure has their own ways, but the best tool for handling growth periods with grace is meditation. Meditation makes it possible to instantly regain your space and your composure. When you sit in a grounded meditation space with awareness resting in the middle of your head – you reclaim your space. You take back your space to just be, to breathe and to have no rules.

I often talk about grounded meditation in this blog simply because it is such a wonderful and powerful tool for healing yourself and subsequently also for healing those around you.

With meditation you go from pushing and fretting your way through a growth period to gracefully gliding through it. Imagine yourself on a surfboard masterfully riding that huge wave of growth. Yes, you can have fun with it!

When you go into your meditation space you can come to awareness of the energies you have been carrying around with you. Instead of being at the effect of the energies in your space and letting them dictate to you how to live your life, you can be the one to choose what you want to keep here and what you want to let go. You can easily release pain, effort, resistance, heaviness, self-doubt, invalidation and all that is weighing you down. You can be your own boss and give your day a colour you like. Again, you are free to make it fun!

With daily meditation as your ally you can be in a growth period and still have fun and play like a child. When you get your breathing space back, you will know and experience in a very visceral way that no matter what, all is well.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2016

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27 Sep

Where are you heading?

Who wrote the script to your life? Are you the one consciously choosing how to live your life and where you are heading by consciously changing the script every day or are you following someone else’s story? Are you consciously choosing where you want to go next or are you running on autopilot?

We are all run by the stories we tell ourselves, the pictures we carry around in our spaces and the programming we have accepted as our truth. Those may be happy and heroic stories or stories of sadness and victimhood. A happy story lives in the present moment while the victim story wants to predict future. If a story doesn’t feel good and doesn’t lead to joy, then it may be time to let go of that story. You have that freedom.

Often when pain comes up, people want a fortune-teller to make predictions about their future and have a guru hand them a clearly defined map for what comes next. The thing is, however, that the future is not predetermined. There is no set destiny that dictates where you are supposed to be heading and what you should be doing. There is no ‘should’ or ‘have to’ – those are simply limitations that come from expectations and demands from others.

You as a spiritual being chose to lower your vibration and to incarnate into this body in this particular time-frame in order to experience certain things here on the physical plane. You have a goal and a purpose for the lifetime. However, there is no set way in which to reach this goal – you get to choose how you want to play. You have an energy that is entirely unique only to you and only you can choose how you want to experience being in a body. Your body is your mock-up and only you have the power to choose where you want to go with it.

We ourselves get to choose what is around the corner for us. We can’t choose for others, but we can choose for ourselves.

Generally, what sets the tone for where you are heading is the energy in your space. It’s the choices you are making right now, the programming from others that you have accepted as truth, the images you visualize daily, the thoughts you think and the words you speak right now. It all really depends on what you bring your attention to, focus on and breath life into and that can all be changed through energywork, meditation and visualization.

The only way to begin to heal the stories that you tell is to step into full ownership of where you are right now. Only from this space of spiritual accountability can you truly begin to see and own what is yours and release what is not yours.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2016

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20 Sep

Speaking your own truth leads you to your joy

When you take the time to connect with your own truth in each moment and then speak your mind gently and with assertiveness you are being loving. Honesty is a deeply loving act. While on the other hand holding back your truth and your honest words is a way of holding back your love both for yourself as well as the others.

Sometimes the truth that needs to be spoken in the moment may not be what those around or even you yourself may want to hear as it may challenge the integrity of everyone, some changes may need to be made, but it will be a tremendous healing for all. Most of all though, truth, when spoken gently with love and assertiveness will really set you free and will be a healing for all.

If you are the type of person that loathes conflict and wants to hide his head in the sand at the first sign of trouble then it may be hard for you to stand up for yourself, speak your mind and consequently say no to others. You may be into the pattern of pleasing others and always saying what they want to hear in fear of disapproval. If so, then you are drowning out the voice of your intuition and inner knowing over the noise of other people’s expectations and demands. This is soul-destroying and invalidating for your spirit and probably also very painful for you.

This kind of distance between the real you and the you that you are in the world is rooted in some sort of a childhood trauma where you were programmed by those around you to think and believe that you didn’t matter, that you were small and undeserving of love. So because of these beliefs it can be hard for you to truly be yourself and to receive the love that you so desperately need, because you believe that you don’t really deserve it. Now is time to kick out those faulty old beliefs and claim your true worth as the son or daughter of the Creator for whom nothing is impossible. God is pure compassion and has created plenty of love and resources for all so that no one’s needs ever really go without fulfilment.

Sometimes speaking your truth can be intimidating, but it is necessary for clarity, direction and healing for all. Realise that you may be holding back tremendous soul wisdom that wants to express through you by not sharing your words. You can rest assured that if you keep holding back your words and your authenticity situations will keep presenting themselves that will keep pushing your ability to speak up and express yourself in the moment.

If you feel a sense of tightness or anxiety on your neck it means there are words that need to be expressed but you’ve held them back for one reason or another. Often the reason is fearing disapproval and being rejected and abandoned by others that don’t want to hear the truth. The truth is however if those around will abandon you for speaking up then those may not be the people you want to be hanging around with anyways. It’s a win-win for all. Most importantly, at least speak that truth to yourself first, then it will be easier to express yourself to others.

If your intention is to be loving and kind and you come from that place within you when you speak, then you will naturally start to repel those with unloving focuses and intentions. It’s not something you did wrong it’s just that the Universe is ordering events and people around you to suit your true self and your true needs in order to bring you your highest fulfilment and joy. It all starts with clarifying your intentions for yourself and then expressing that either in conversation with your guardian angels, your guides or the Supreme Being. Rest assured that you are being heard and infinitely loved at all times.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2016

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