27 Apr

Self-love leads you to your greatest joy

Sometimes you find yourself on the receiving end of judgement, invalidation or disapproval from others. Maybe it was something you said or did that triggered their insecurities, but it is certainly not something you are responsible for. It is not yours to fix or heal.

These situations are truly blessings in disguise since as a result of this experience you will grow and learn a whole lot more about yourself than you may previously have been aware of. You may notice that the degree to which you react to someone else’s projections directed at you is the degree to which you actually believe what they are saying. Or in others words, it is the degree to which you have lost your space and are matching their insecurities. If you are able to remain neutral here, then congratulations: it means you have cleared your matching pictures. On the other hand, if it seems like you’ve hit a wall, it is because your self-image is in some way hooked into how others see you.

As a result you might even get angry at them, since your expectations about how others should behave and act around you have been disappointed. You lost your space and your amusement. Not an issue in and of itself, but the goal is to return to neutrality and have your space back.

The truth is you cannot control how others see you, receive you or react to you. That is not your space or place to have a say in. Everyone makes their decisions and creates their own karma. It is between them and Source.

The healing step here is to move everybody else’s energy out of your self-image space and define it for yourself with the vibration of self-love instead. Then, no matter how many people are on your side or supportive of you, you can do your own thing, speak your truth, be true to yourself and not give a damn about what others think of you. What others think of you is none of your business anyway.

Self-love, seeing the value and worth in yourself regardless of whether others can see it or not is the mark of a true leader. This kind of leadership may not be about leading the masses, conquering lands or roaring like a lion. Rather, it is about the ability to quietly work on your own even when facing opposition. With self-love you are able to do the right thing even when all odds are stacked against you, because you have your space and freedom to be authentic and are not phased by temporary dramas.

The healing balm of self-love allows you to accept and embrace everything about yourself, not just the good and easy parts. There are parts of your beingness that have been hidden away in the unconscious for a long time. Old fear-based belief systems may have caused you to repress these parts about yourself as dark, evil or wicked. It is only with the nurturing light of self-love that those parts can come out to the surface and finally be seen, healed and owned by you. And as you own more of yourself, including the uncomfortable and the dark parts, you will be able to more easily let go of all those external power struggles, battles and disagreements with others where you felt you had to defend yourself. With your energy freed up from fighting with others, more of it will be available to you and free to use for creating something wonderful in the moment. You step out of competition with Source.

The greatest truth is that truly nothing about what others say or do is ever personal to you, especially when it seems like it is! Rather, everyone are having their own conversations with Source and more often than not, those conversations can happen through you. Validate that you are part of a greater whole that works and creates blessings through you. Your whole beingness in itself is a blessing.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2018

Photo: ‘Self-love’ / artwork by Tiia Lohmus / From the “Daily Healing Messages from Source” oracle card deck

6 Jan

Eco-communities are the bright green future of mankind

It’s the last day of 2017 and I spent most of this afternoon roaming around the forest nearby our house in Risti, located in the Western Estonia. My body felt very nurtured as I circulated lots of Earth energy and communicated with the energy of the land.

I am deeply inspired and in awe of the beautiful nature around here. Truly, Estonian land and people are extremely blessed with some of the most ancient and untouched forests. As I walked along a trail I came across many amazing photo opportunities and became more and more uplifted by the smells, sights and sensations.

Then I walked past an area where a chunk of the forest had been cut down and only tree stumps had remained. This had been a relatively small part of the forest and the trees from there are probably being used as firewood or building material. All well and good, but somehow I was overcome by very deep sadness and tears began to fall. I could just see the beautiful and innocent ecosystem, that this part of the forest had been, completely destroyed by humans. Perhaps the owners of this land are wise enough to plant two trees for every single tree that they choose to cut down, but seeing this destruction made me think of the same happening all across the globe. For example, right now beautiful Indonesian rainforests are being cut down by greedy corporations just to plant palm trees for oil production. Very, very sad indeed considering that ecosystems are being destroyed that had been vital to various species of animal, bird, insect and plant. We have yet to see the true effect of man’s greed on the planet’s climate.

There is already a growing awareness of climate change and this has been around for many decades. People are becoming increasingly aware of how their small everyday actions affect the nature around them and the planet as a whole. One of the marks of an awakened species is awareness of one another and the environment and we as a collective are finally beginning to wake up. One of the key lessons for us a collective is noticing that there is a direct correlation between the way we treat one another on the small everyday scale and how we treat the planet below our feet.

We humans are an interesting species. On the one hand, we are a wonderful creation of Source, blessed with much curiosity and intelligence and yet on the other hand plagued by a sense of entitlement and completely deluded by the belief that we somehow ‘own’ this planet. Few awakened beings have realised that one can truly only own one’s own energy and space. This means that one only truly ever has control over one’s own thoughts, words, actions and choices. We do not own this planet, rather we are visitors here. Through a beautiful, mysterious and perfect series of choices and decisions made as a collective consciousness, we ended up here on this planet. Being human and being alive is a wonderful experience filled with both beauty as well as challenges, however, we are not here to stay for an eternity. We do not have that luxury in a Universe that is constantly changing. Just as people have their cycles of lives, so does the Earth. We are currently part of an extremely beautiful time in the Earth’s evolution and as a species we hold the responsibility to ensure that the Earth remains in that beautiful condition that it still is in.

Through the senseless and unkind actions of many selfish and greedy humans we are seeing what damage has already been done to Earth. We must change our ways before it’s too late. Already there has been a rise of eco-warriors and people coming together to live in communities that are based around completely natural and Earth-based values. These people are renouncing the ways of the old consumerist society and adopt habits and behaviours that are essentially friendly towards the Earth. There are truly many, many steps we can each take immediately to support this eco-movement, such as: recycling, saving water, saving electricity, switching to eco-friendly household products and appliances, shopping locally and buying from your local farmer, avoiding GMO products and growing your own organic fruit and veggies, and much more. Truly, the list is endless, I could go on and on.

The time frame that we are currently into in the Earth’s and humanity’s history is the paradigm shift from a Young soul world to a Mature soul world. That is, we are collectively switching from a competition-based world-view to a community-based world-view. This isn’t necessarily an easy process and lots of growth pain is involved, especially for those that have little consciousness of what is happening. It’s similar to a child becoming a teenager and learning about his responsibilities in the world at large. Isolating oneself, playing the lone wolf and the ‘I win, you lose’ attitude no longer works; now it’s all about joining others so that life becomes a win-win for all.

The eco-communities represent all of what is truly the most optimal for the future of mankind. In these communities no one gets left by the wayside, not a person, animal or plant. Everyone is given a purpose to fulfil, everyone has a place and deserves compassionate love. As we take good care of one another and the Earth, we will have graduated to a whole new way of being.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2018

Photo: ‘Agence producteurs locaux’ by Damien Kuhn / unsplash.com

25 Oct

Psychic meditation helps you to connect with your own truth

At times things can get a little heated and you may feel pressure from others to conform, fit into a mould, do as you’re told … How do you manage that kind of energy? Have you tried meditating yet?

When you sit down to meditate, you are entering a stress free zone that is entirely your own. You are your own boss in this space and no one gets to dictate anything to you here. Using visualisation tools you can also safely release any weighty or stressful energy that you may have picked up from others.

The time spent sitting in communication with your body, your Essence, your own answers and Source is time spent very wisely indeed. Namely, the more often you do this, the easier it becomes to get into a centered and meditative state at all times, including during times of duress. Meditation is indeed an invaluable tool to help you to quickly move through any unpleasant situations with all of your integrity intact.

The great thing about receiving intuitive guidance in your meditation space is that it comes from your own truth and does not have to be proved, explained or defended to anyone. You have full permission to clear any energy that says otherwise! Imagine living your life free from competition and from having to make sense to anyone – how fun and liberating!

Very often the Universe gives us lessons that require us to let go of having to ‘know’ where we’re heading, to let go of struggling and to simply trust. In those times the communication you may be receiving from Source may not make a whole lot of sense to your analytical mind. Indeed, if you were to keep on insisting that the communication fit into a specific mould, an expectation, then the result is that you will miss the true underlying message. It might not be what you expected, but is quite likely something even better! Trust in the infinite compassion of Source to know the most healing and loving solutions for everyone involved.

What may help you to quickly get into a space of clear communication with the God-of-Your-Heart and Source are the psychic tools. I’m not talking about external tools here such as oracle cards, a pendulum or a magic wand, but rather visualisation tools such as grounding, running energy and the rose image. These tools work entirely on visualisation and intention and can help you to access your own answers much more easily and effortlessly than otherwise. There are of course many other different and entirely valid ways to receive information, such as through feelings, sensations, just knowing, as a hunch or an instinct, but the truth is that visual images are the most accurate and the least biased.

Using your tools you will be easily able to release expectations and judgements from your space and receive clear communication from spirit for what it actually is.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2017

Photo: By Bill Williams / unsplash.com

23 Sep

Slowing down

Have you noticed the ever-increasing speed of daily living lately? There seems to be ever so much more to do and ever so little time to just be.

With so much ‘bad news’ constantly thrown at us via the media our bodies are overloaded with stress. If you are quite sensitive, then this collective stress can make it almost impossible for you to take that much needed quiet time for yourself. So many people to heal!

What is behind the inability to stop and just be is quite frankly the lack of space. I’m not talking about physical space here, although that could be a factor, too. I’m talking about energetic space – the space you need for you to be You. That space is your aura, your body and your chakras. If your space is crowded with all kinds of foreign energy, daily life can become an effort. It may seem like a lot of hard work to even just sit down and eat.

The reason why we give away our space to others is an underlying trauma or a fear-based pattern. That pattern can keep you busy as though your survival depended on it. Perhaps at one point it did!

That inner lack of space keeps you constantly on the move, constantly responding to everyone’s demands. And thus avoiding the simplicity, stillness and the elegant emptiness of the present moment. It can be quite uncomfortable to sit with the emptiness of the moment.

One of the ways you can instantly de-stress, heal yourself and allow yourself to be more present in the moment is to retreat into a natural environment such as a forest. The physical body is very instinctive and effortlessly relaxes around the healing sounds and sensations of nature. Forests have such a natural rhythm, which the body recognises and immediately begins to match to.

During my stay at our countryside home in Western Estonia throughout the months of July and August this year, I was in constant awe of how very relaxed and at ease my body felt all the time. It’s a very beautiful and healing location. Our house there is surrounded by thick forests all around. Every day I was greeted by clean air and birdsong – I found it very easy to ground myself in that space. On the other hand, this sense of ease and groundedness contrasts heavily with how my body feels while I’m staying at my apartment here in Southern England. There are woods here, of course, but I have to walk a distance to get there.

When there aren’t any forests near you, then another easy way that you can de-stress your sensitive body is to create some quiet space and meditate. You may meditate with a guided meditation audio of some kind or you could simply sit in silence, basking in the beauty of the moment. Your meditation may include chanting or visualisations as preferred. Everyone has their own way of meditating that is suitable for them – there is no perfect way to meditate, no ‘one size fits all’. I would like to invite you to notice whether you have any judgements about how you meditate. And if you do notice any, then go ahead and release those right now.

I am running weekly Sunday meditations here at our Eastbourne location at the Pannarai Healing Studio. The class is for everyone and no previous experience is required. Or if you can’t be here in person, you could join our phone classes. ‘Meditation 1’, the 6 week class, is beginning Sunday, September 24. This class is a good starting point to learning to meditate and to heal yourself.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2017

Photo by Aaron Burden / unsplash.com

27 Apr

Your values create safety for you

In our everyday lives we deal with constant change and unpredictability and if we are not grounded into our own solid set of values, it can be easy to get thrown about by everyone else’s agendas.

One surefire way to tell that you may be participating in something that is not for your highest good is a sense of anxiety that seems to come out of nowhere. Your body is always communicating with you and anxiety is its way of telling you that somewhere along the line something is out of integrity. Typically there may be a situation where you need to speak up, be heard and make some changes. Whatever it may be, it is in your best interests to trust your body’s truthful guidance and wisdom.

Of course, as a sensitive and empathic being, you may also be matching to someone else’s emotional landscape. You may very well be taking on the troubles and pain of everyone else and unwittingly being the container for others to process their stuff. However, it is crucial to realise that the only person whose pain you can ever really heal and take ownership of is your own.

You can only gently guide others to the wellspring of their inner wisdom, but you can not make them drink.

The healing step here is to always seek to release what is not yours and always come back home to yourself. It might help to take a look at why you may be matching to others and see if you can perhaps get grounded within yourself instead.

A well known practice for many new intuitives, and especially for many in the New Age community, is that of ‘shielding’ or ‘protecting’ oneself with a bubble or any other similar intention. The idea behind this is to ‘keep out’ other people’s stuff. And underlying this idea is the fear that others can somehow intrude upon our spaces, that we are somehow victims to their energy. Quite frankly, the truth about this technique is that it is isolating. It is not at all necessary to use ‘shielding’ when we are in touch with who we really are. The healing step here is again to bring your awareness back to yourself and see what is being triggered in you to want to protect yourself. Maybe you are feeling vulnerable?

The only protection as such that you’ll ever need is to have a solid inner core of boundaries and clarity about who you are and who you are not. You can always lean on this inner core when the times are difficult somehow.

Instead of ‘shielding’ I would recommend using grounding instead. You can use your connection with the Earth below your feet to release what is not yours and to connect with the truths in your heart. Grounding is a cornerstone of the ‘Basic intuitive skills’ class and all of the intuitive practices at the Hello EssenceJoy Healing Centre.

The beautiful thing here is that the Universe supports you when you are operating from your truest, most authentic self. Being true to yourself may seem like a difficult task in a world where we are daily required to wear masks and repress ourselves by those that can’t handle the truth. You may even feel overwhelmed by this idea, but remember this: you are only ever given as much as you can handle. When you take healing steps for you, you are also supporting, teaching and healing many, many more individuals than you may even have a conscious awareness of. Indeed, you don’t have to write a book, teach a seminar or even utter a single word. Simply vibrating from your own truest self is the greatest healing and a teaching to all.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2017

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16 Mar

Being in your vertical flow

When pain comes up for us we immediately seek to lean on others for safety and security. The instinctive reaction to pain is to seek for nourishment, healing and reassurance outside of ourselves.

There is a lie in here that says that we can’t handle our pain. And underneath that lie is the fear that our pain could kill us. Pain is actually a good friend who has useful information to share to us about our lives. If we keep ignoring it – it will never go away.

From an early age we learn from those around us to connect with one another in a horizontal way. We cord into our mothers via the umbilical cord at first and later via an energetic cord. We go through life constantly cording into everyone: our partners, family members, friends, colleagues, clients … even acquaintances …

Cording is nothing unusual and actually comes by default. We send energetic cords into others for safety and security. We cord because we have lost the capacity to connect with the abundant resource of energy within us. The main negative side to cording is that it depletes the energy of the one being corded into. It is actually quite dis-empowering to allow cording.

There is a more optimal, more truthful and empowered way, namely: running your own vertical energy. It begins with you grounding into the planet below your feet instead of into those around you. Then, when you release all the energy from your space that is not yours, you replenish yourself by circulating your Earth and Cosmic energies. Indeed, your own vertical energy flows are all the healing and nourishment that you really need.

All the nourishment you’ll ever need comes from the Earth below your feet and the golden sun above your head, your essence. Call this your vertical flow. Now, occasionally you fall out of this flow – that’s when you are ready for a hello. Are you ready for one now? Check if you are in your centre!

Once you become conscious of your own energy and the various energy flows running through your energy channels on a daily basis it becomes easier to begin to direct those flows. Rather than giving all your energy away and becoming depleted through cording you can remove those cords and connect with an infinite resource of energy within you instead. With your vertical energy flowing you become self-sufficient.

Being free of cords allows you to have more space for you just to be you and to create from your own truth. What an easy and joyful way of being that is!

We look at cording and spiritual agreements in our ‘Meditation 2’ program week four class. Take this 6 week intuitive training to take the next step in your spiritual evolution.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2017

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25 Feb

The psychic child within

Many of the stern adults of today were once sensitive and psychic children. All children are intuitive and own their gifts with ease. However, as they grow older, they may not have permission to use their abilities and as a result lose touch with them.

Let’s be very clear: there is absolutely nothing woo-woo about being intuitive. The idea that it is something mystical or magical in a negative way comes from fears and limited thinking that have been conditioned upon us over the ages. It is an entirely natural ability that comes with being human. No extra effort required.

Put it this way, if you have a soul, then you are psychic. Simple as that. Using your ability means getting in touch with that part of yourself we call ‘the soul’ or whatever else you want to call it. It is of course much more complex than just ‘a soul’, but to simplify we can say it is that part of you that is connected with the source of all answers and is all you need for your healing and well-being.

The easiest and quickest way to access your intuition is primarily through imagination. You can also connect through sensations, feelings, sounds or knowingness, but imagination is the way that is most fun and natural. You may not think you are very imaginative, but if you can envision the simple image of an apple, then you already have what it takes to receive communication from your spirit. Now the task becomes to quiet the noise within and around you down enough so as to be able to hear the often subtle voice of your soul.

Daydreaming is a very fun and joyful way through which children access their own answers. They do this very naturally and without making a fuss about it. Children have not yet been heavily conditioned by those around them, so they allow their imagination and their spirits to wander and play around without restrictions. It is the fundamental curiosity and sense of wonder that drives them to ask the questions and receive the answers. Children are walking and talking geniuses and there is much we could learn from them.

Many of the adults today live their lives carrying around with them the fears, conditioning and the lies handed to them from their parents, authorities or other adults around them. These lies and responsibilities, that they accepted without any questioning, clothed them in an imaginary cloak of security, which was supposed to grant them success in life and keep them safe, but in reality has done nothing else than block them from seeing themselves and those around them clearly. The core lie here is that they cannot access their own answers and couldn’t possibly be psychic. The abilities are there, however, the only question remains: to which extent does any given person choose to use their abilities? Some people passionately pursue their intuitive capacity, while others may want to run from it and turn it off completely.

The basic intuitive skills class is the psychic kindergarten where your inner child gets a hello and you get the chance to slowly begin to nurture and turn own your natural abilities again. You get to be the child again and grow, play and have fun in a safe and supportive learning environment.

Next class series is beginning on March 11 at the Eastbourne Natural Fitness Centre. There are a few open spaces left. Click here to find out more and to ground your spot.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2017

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24 Jan

Wanted: visionaries that can see truth, love and beauty

On the night of January the 15th, Jesus came to me in my dream-space and showed me in the first person the experiences and events around and leading up to his crucifixion. While getting nailed to a cross may not strike as a very happy image for most people, I will, however, treasure this special visitation and the gifts gained from it for the rest of my life.

Truly, I am happy beyond any level of happiness I have ever been to have received this special insight from Jesus. That is because by reaching out to me and sharing with me one of his most intimate moments with the Supreme Being he is at the same time helping me with my life task or the very reason why I have incarnated into this body and lifetime. Jesus was without a doubt a great leader and a visionary who taught through his example the healing power of love and trust and stood up for those whose voices had not been heard before. Many, many miracles have been documented of the healings that he performed.

Interestingly, January 15 was also Martin Luther King’s birthday, who is another man that facilitated great societal change. Like Jesus, he inspired the masses with his impassioned speeches, spoke of choosing love over fear and stood up for the less advantaged. Both of these extraordinary men had a burning, passionate love for mankind and a great intolerance for hate, greed and injustice of any kind. As is appropriate for all true spiritual leaders throughout history, both of them also operated from the highest integrity, promoted equality for all and fiercely stood up for what is right.

Jesus, Martin Luther King and many other great leaders who have walked among us through the ages have all had something powerful working for them, namely: the gift of higher vision. They had the incredible ability to envision and take action towards a loving, kind and a beautiful existence for us all. And their vision was indeed very needed to lift us all as a collective up and out of the heaviness of our ignorance, unconsciousness, divisiveness and fear. Fortunately for us all, higher vision is an ability that can be accessed by everyone and isn’t exclusive to only a few extraordinary men and women.

Indeed, visualisation, which is a natural ability, is more than ‘just’ visualisation. When you decide to bring yourself to a visual level and allow yourself to see, you are in fact healing yourself and others, because by visualising you are accessing your spirit. And when you say hello to your spirit – magic happens.

The images you create in your mind’s eye are what will manifest into your reality. Imagination really is that powerful. So why not go ahead and imagine a peaceful, loving and beautiful existence for us all?

Nowadays with so many fear-based news stories dominating the media we need more people that say hello to the truth, love and beauty in things. Even just a few courageous individuals who stay centered on and constantly say hello to truth, love and beauty in all circumstances is what truly heals and progresses humanity right now. Humanity needs daily hellos from visionaries who step forward and speak up for what is right, visionaries who create beautiful works of art and visionaries that heal simply with a compassionate glance and their beautiful smiles.

In our present day and age we need leadership like Jesus, Martin Luther King and other beings like these who can see the value, worth and beauty of each and every one of us beyond what the appearances seem to be. We need leaders that can see beyond competition, our net worth or how we stack up against others in comparison. Humanity as a whole needs leaders now that teach from unconditional love and spread it around for us all through their decisive actions.

The scales of justice tip over to the side of injustice every time someone chooses to degrade, bully, belittle or otherwise invalidate another human being. And when one of us suffers – all of us suffer. It is the spiritual law.

The true leaders of today do not divide or separate us, but unite us through love and encourage each and every one of us to be our truest, most optimal selves. They reassure that we are loved no matter what. I say yes to a leader, who would invite me to a wild barefoot shamanic dancing and singing party where I could let go of all of my inhibitions and just be my most authentic self. That would be a wild non-alcoholic and vegan party, of course.

After all the encounters with Jesus and other master beings recently, I keep getting the comforting message from the Universe that you can proceed with your greatest joy and life purpose here and have the innocence and trust of a child that whatever you need will be provided as and when needed. “Thou shalt not want” doesn’t mean you should have no desires, but that you will never have to go without the food, love, shelter, kindness or whatever other sustenance that you need to nourish yourself. All that is needed to invite in this beautiful energy is a little more daily gratitude for what you already have and all will truly be well.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2017

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14 Dec

Heal with forgiveness

At times the people in our lives can say or do things that can be hurtful to us. Maybe something happened ‘in the heat of the moment’ or maybe no harm was even intended and simply an old wound got lit up for you.

Whatever the case, things happen and we have the choice to either open up and bleed and feel it all or close down and put up a wall. More often than not people prefer to run, hide and build walls, which does nothing but contribute to the sense of division and isolation from others. It takes a lot of courage to stay in one’s vulnerability when things get uncomfortable or when pain comes up.

Whether harm from another was intended or not it is an immediate healing to fully acknowledge and own the pain that can come up at times. You powerfully heal yourself and others when you allow yourself to stay fully present with your feelings rather than casting them aside as troublesome or inconvenient. If you don’t own and feel your stuff now it will come up again at another time, so you might as well just go ahead and do the work now.

Sometimes disagreements arise between people because of their differences from one another and these disagreements can be resolved gently and kindly with respect and reverence towards all involved or there can be negative reactions that individuals usually wish they had handled differently. In those times we must remind ourselves that all of us are indeed spiritual beings on a human path and nobody’s perfect. We all learn and we all make mistakes – that’s what we’re here for and is primarily how we grow.

Each one of us is so very unique and simply cannot be compared to another. Everyone is different and has their own approaches and perspectives in life. Sometimes we simply disagree on things, but we can always agree to disagree.

Truth is, we all came from the same source and we are all heading in the same direction, too. That direction is love and inclusiveness.

There are different kinds of wounds and reasons for why they are created. Some of them can be from this lifetime and some can go very far back to past lives. It is precisely at that time when you are ready to face these old wounds that they get triggered again around a specific person or place. This is no accident or coincidence and was indeed divinely orchestrated by your essence, aka your higher self, so you could release the past and move on to greener pastures.

I understand that it can be very difficult to forgive an aggressor, but the thing with holding on to anger or unforgiveness toward another is that at the end of the day the only person these heavy emotions will really harm is you. Choosing to hold on to the old toxic energy of unforgiveness is an energy leak since by doing so you are in fact keeping a piece of your energy hostage in the past. That energy could be very well be used for something much more productive such as your creative projects.

Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you condone what they did. It means releasing the toxic energy you have been holding on to so you can move on.

Let me clarify this just in case it wasn’t clear from the start: there is nothing wrong with feeling anger, unforgiveness or any other heavy emotions. When an injustice occurs, an emotional response is only natural and is there to communicate some truth to you. However, after the experience is over and lessons have been learned, it is time to let go.

Being willing to release your anger and consciously choosing to forgive is a hello to the truth that we come here to have experiences based on our spiritual agreements with one another. Once the agreements are complete and experiences have been had it is time to integrate.

Everyone heals in their own way and at their own pace. There is no rush and there is no pressure to heal fast. Most importantly you heal by expressing your feelings and the truths that have been stirred in your heart. It does not serve anyone to hold your deep truths and pain inside.

Once you reach the other side of your forgiveness process you can once again start to entertain the idea that everyone is always doing their best. Yes, even those that seem to be outright intentionally harming others. Indeed, universal justice exists and no one ever gets away with anything. This Universe of ours is a very fair and just one and we are very blessed. Staying centered in these simple truths we can start to move forward into the future with childlike innocence and trust again.

Energywork tip: you can use imagination for this forgiveness exercise. Imagine a gold rose between you and the person or event you would like to forgive. Just keep saying hello to the gold rose until you have sufficient space from this person or event. Once you get your space back and become neutral to all the strong emotions that have come up you can start to heal.

© Copyright Hello EssenceJoy 2016

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14 Nov

Take your time

We are always in a hurry to get to the next ‘big thing’. Same happens as we move through the tasks in a day: we go from one thing to the next without taking a proper break. It’s like the disease of this century. There never seems to be enough time to just sit, breathe and be.

Having your to-do-list crammed full of items can be like an addiction. People even brag about having a lot to do as if it were a good thing. They pride themselves on multitasking and are always chasing more activity, more money, more this or that. God forbid if you sit still for five minutes and just breathe.

Living in this way, always hurrying somewhere, you are living with a large portion of your energy either projected out into the future or stuck in the past. As in, “I will be happy when … ” – you fill the blank. To a clairvoyant it will look like your aura is projected out in front of you. With little of your energy available to you in the present, you can easily become diluted, spread too thin and simply burned out.

Always having a lot to do and a chasing a lot of things to have throws things out of balance. When your energy is spread out to the past and the future, there simply won’t be enough of you in the present and you need your energy in the present to heal your body. We can restore that balance by grounding ourselves into the present by taking more time with each task, dwelling on them a little longer to extract the full value from them and honouring the body’s limits.

A healing happens when you ground yourself back into this present moment and choose to let go of all the non-essential. It is such a beautiful gift to yourself to instead slow down, choose to have fewer things to do and savour each moment.

This business of life and living, it’s not all about doing and having. Just being is also a worthy companion.

So, who or what has control over your schedule today? Does your to-do-list include breathing breaks? Are you the one choosing your tasks or is there some other energy outside of you controlling your space? Could it be your mother’s expectations of you? Take a look right now!

Imagine if there was nothing you ‘had’ to do, then what would you want or choose to do? What comes to you as an answer to this question is probably the most important thing for you to be doing right now! And that thing may in fact be doing nothing in particular at all and simply breathing.

So, today take back ownership of your space and take your time. Slow down and take your time when you have your favourite cup of tea, when you watch your favourite TV series, when you walk through a forest, when you water your plants, when you feed your dogs, when you play with your children or when you do your work. These moments are precious and will never repeat in exactly the same way again. Nothing is permanent. Infuse lots of gratitude, appreciation and beauty into each and every moment. Be totally present and savour each moment before moving on to the next thing.

Imagine if you were infinitely lovable and taken care of by an extremely compassionate Universe, savouring each moment without hurrying to the next thing would indeed be the most beautiful gift you could possibly give to yourself. Why are you in a hurry anyways when the whole of eternity is yours to play with!

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