2 Oct

The energy of validation

To validate is to see and acknowledge the full value and truth of something.

Validation is an energy and a truly powerful healing energy at that.

Who then validates your truth? You as a being? Can you validate your own desires, wants and needs? Do you see your own value regardless of whether those around you see it or not? Or maybe you feel good about yourself only when your value is confirmed by others, when you are putting out a certain valance to ‘fit in’ . . .

Typically, if you are different from the mainstream and dance to the beat of a different drummer – validation is hard to come by from the outside. If you wait for others to come to agreement with your uniqueness and validate it for you – you may end up waiting for it a long time indeed.

Validation has to come from inside of you.

When you validate yourself you recognize your rightful place in the bigger scheme of things and that you are already whole. No one’s permission to be uniquely you is required.

If you are experiencing road-blocks, stuckness, resistance, pain or maybe even illness, it is your own spirit that can heal you and pave the way forward. It is the creative ability of your spirit to get you out of any ego isolation and back into community and to a feeling of being supported in life.

Spirit grows through validation. The more you can validate your own being through practices such as meditation, receiving a healing or a reading – the more your spirit grows and the more easily you can heal yourself. It is indeed your own spirit that heals your body.

The clairvoyant reading and healing sessions are a space for the healee to open up, to feel safe and eventually to receive validation from within themselves. As a therapist I facilitate the space, but I am not really the one doing the healing.

I recently had a client whose spirit had been so invalidated in her body that she runs everyone else’s questions / issues / agendas in her space. She is hiding behind a whole load of energy that does not belong to her. When I communicated this information to her, she could not ‘get it’. She could not have this level of validation. At the core here is a lie that one is somehow unimportant. Someone like this does not ask questions, does not seek growth, because she doesn’t really believe she could have her heart’s desire. Or is simply not willing to find out.

Someone whose spirit has been repeatedly invalidated will have such low self-esteem that they will seek answers outside of themselves. They literally refuse to connect with their own answers even if they slapped them in the face.

Imagine that: your answers slapping you in the face – trying to get some attention! Will you give them some attention already? If not, another slap may be on its way.

A clairvoyant reading says hello to the spirit and validates it. The spirit will then heal the body. It’s that simple.

Being seen by a clairvoyant is a two-way street: the psychic will only see as much as you are willing to be seen. If you do not want to be seen – this intention works. But this way you remain hidden. How then can you expect your dreams to manifest if you yourself are not manifesting in your body! You attract to yourself what you are not what you want. You have to want to be seen, to heal and to grow.

Invalidation that comes from outside of you can only have an effect if there is already agreement with it inside. This again boils down to low self-esteem that you picked up along the way of your journey. However, with energywork you can create a new self-image picture of yourself that says hello to your value. You can begin to see yourself as a valuable, confident and self-assured individual. This self-image then lets others know how to see you.

There will always be individuals who will try to invalidate you and tell you what to believe. An invalidator has power only for as long as you keep arguing them. You take back your power when you consider their viewpoint as valid, but not excluding yours. Let them have their beliefs and simply carry on creating from your own truth. Step out of competition and stop trying to prove yourself. There’s nothing to explain.

Instead of playing their game, make your own rules and validate yourself!

It’s by grounding your own information that you validate yourself. Grounding is a daily practice you can use to keep giving value to your own truth.

©EssenceJoy Clairvoyance 2013

Photo: ‘Pink rose’ / Flower Story’s Facebook page

13 Aug

Have no regrets – nurture your spirit

“Live a good, honourable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.” ~ The Dalai Lama

A close friend’s father passed away in late May this year.

He was nearly eighty years of age, so not too old. However, he had had dementia for several years and his health had been declining.

I met him in dreamspace many times both before and after the passing, but there was one particularly meaningful encounter that left a mark.

In this dream I was working with a group of souls that have recently passed away and I was helping them to process their lifetimes. You could say I was being a kind of a dream therapist – doing what I do best, I guess!

Then I spoke to Chris, my friend’s father. He told me he regretted the way he spent his life. He said it felt like a waste because of having spent too much time working and being overly money- and business-oriented. I consoled him by reminding him to consider what a great service he had done to his family, who had enjoyed a financially secure life. He then said that having financial security did not have much meaning to him as a spirit, it was the moments of making contact with his own being that were of true value to him. He made a vow to dedicate his next lifetime to more creative pursuits where he can start to nurture his connection with himself, with his own spirit. He made a vow to give himself more space to just be and to meditate.

This is great wisdom. You may want to take a close look at how you are spending your time: do you give yourself plenty of one-to-one time with your spirit or do you sabotage yourself out of it? Can you afford to have quiet moments of reflection, creative activity or spiritual friends in your life who validate you as a spiritual being? Or do you run away from your down-time because of fears of having nothing to do? Could it be because you feel worthless when you just sit around and do nothing?

Top 5 regrets of the dying

Here’s the thing: when you allow yourself more time to just be, to breathe and to meditate – you are nurturing your spirit. You are evolving spiritually and doing your own spirit and those of others a great service.

It’s doing too much that is the waste of time!

Spirit only grows when validated and that validation can only occur in quiet moments of reflection when being is more important than doing.

Quoting here one of my teachers at the Aesclepion Healing Center . . .

“It is recognized that while many forces drive the natural body, it is the pursuit of life experience that drives spirit. Spirit pursues growth. And spirit only grows when validated.” ~ John Fulton

© EssenceJoy Clairvoyance 2013

photo: #1: ‘sunset’ – weheartit.com / #2: from The Guardian News report

29 Jul

Living in the present moment is a gift

The physical body isn’t an obstacle to be overcome – it’s a reality to be experienced.

It’s true that on the higher planes manifestation happens in an instant, but here on the physical plane things take time. There are no shortcuts, no instant miracles. It takes patience to see your dreams to fruition.

The great changes around the well-known date of December 21, 2012 were not meant to happen in the blink of an eye. These will happen over a much longer period of time.

That is the beauty of the slow and cyclical nature of the physical plane. There is plenty of time. We are not in a hurry to get anywhere. We are not ascending up, up and away as many a New Ager would believe. We are transcending the illusion of our separateness from each other.

Many Eastern philosophies and a large portion of the beliefs held in the New Age circles resist the body and its cycles. Those beliefs lack a solid foundation – they are ungrounded and often fear-based. But love is the highest truth.

Very often the cause is a simple lack of grounding.

Many can’t stick around in the body long enough because of all the pain that is stored in it. Denial of the body by calling it ‘an illusion’ is denial of the pain that they feel. They reject their pain. As a clairvoyant I see snake or the ‘pain beings’ attached to their pain pictures. Clear out the snakes!

So, clearing out the pain and filling your body with lighter, easier and more spirit-friendly energies such as amusement, fun, play, forgiveness, ease – will make it easier for you as a being to spend time in it.

Of course, it’s fine to explore your spiritual nature through whatever journeys you feel called to take, but eventually you would want to bring yourself, your energy, back into body in present time. Otherwise, if you’re not available in the present moment: don’t be surprised that your dreams aren’t manifesting here and now.

Your energy may be in other places and times. Maybe you have a part of you stuck in a past experience where your integrity was compromised, a place where you felt pain and may still be processing it, carrying it around with you.

Or maybe a part of your energy is elsewhere trying to fix and heal for others. Sure, you can be a healer for others, but you may want to realize that an issue can only be solved in its source where it was created from in the first place. Others can only really truly heal themselves.

Call yourself back from wherever your energy has traveled out to, because if too much of you is scattered out all over the place, perhaps explaining, healing, fixing for others or stuck in other time-lines – less of you will be available to create here and now.

People tend to scatter themselves either because of too much pain in the body in present time or some programming that says we must always be busy and constantly doing. Constantly in effort. ‘Just being’ sometimes without doing much is the cure. Meditation is the space where you can ‘just be’.

Bringing yourself, your energy, your truth back into body in present time is healing for you. Meditate, make separations, ground, run your energies, say hello to your own truth and call yourself back into present time – that is the way to heal.

© EssenceJoy Clairvoyance 2013

photo: ‘sunset’ / www.weheartit.com

27 Jun

Emotions = body’s language

The body speaks to us through emotions.

In the energy body it’s the second chakra that spins emotional information and physically it corresponds with the area just below the belly-button.

Do you speak the language of your body? Do you even listen to what your body is telling you?

Maybe it’s time!

Some people are so disconnected from their emotions, they try to explain and analyze their way through feeling anything. You know the ‘sciency’ types, the masculine types, the ‘machos’.

Well, guess what, suppress your emotions long enough and it all just bottles up! And bottled up long enough, it can start to cause all kinds of health problems.

The second chakra governs an array of internal organs (large intestine, female reproductive organs, bladder amongst many others in that area), so the health of those organs is intricately linked with the health of the second chakra.

Unprocessed emotions, or the uncomfortable stuff you like to shove under a figurative rug, does not just disappear. And by the way, if you’re the type who refuses to feel anything, don’t be surprised when the more sensitive ones react in strange ways around you – they are responding to the stuff you got sitting in your aura!

Feelings can only be released through actually feeling them.

What you feel – you heal.

It is natural to feel – no need to suppress it. Especially when you are going through a grieving process or otherwise a difficult time. Don’t space out of your emotions!

Meditation is the space where to begin to connect with your body and to start to listen to its wisdom. With grounding you can even let go of energy that is not yours and connect with your body even more.

I feel pain, you feel pain. It’s okay. I have felt a lot of pain in my life, I may have sometimes felt completely destroyed by the pain, but eventually I . . . rose from the ashes again. When you are done with an emotion, simply put it in a rose. The sun will shine again!

How well connected you are to your body depends on the strength of attraction between you, the spirit, and your body. This attraction is also called Affinity – it is a fourth chakra energy. How much you can embrace your emotions depends how much you love yourself. You see, loving yourself is not just an airy-fairy New Age concept – it is essential to your health and well-being. So say hello to your Affinity and optimize it.

And finally own your space with grounding!

‘Emotions that you embrace become the nurturing water in the soil of your dreams.’

© EssenceJoy Clairvoyance 2013

photo: ‘rose lady’ – www.weheartit.com / ‘garden’ – www.facebook.com

15 Jun

I see auras

The word aura has a lot of charge around it. There are all kinds of ideas about it and not least of them are that it is something ‘mystical’ that only a select few can see.

Let’s just take a step back, disengage from the intellect for a moment and take some time to visualize. Imagine that the space around you isn’t empty. Play with the notion that there is a gently moving current of information of several densities that surrounds your body. Just look at it!

Now, I’m sure you caught a glimpse of it as I described it in this way. Congratulations – you have just used the power of your visualization, a.k.a.: your clairvoyance.

I wouldn’t give too much attention to these big words such as aura, psychic, clairvoyance. Those are just words cloaked in many layers of illusion and untruth. There is nothing mystical here, we all visualize. Just think for a moment of the dreams you have at night.

Your aura or simply, your space, contains all sorts of information about you. It is truly an extension of you, your thoughts and feelings. It shows who you engage with in your life, what are your dreams and plans for the future. It is a constant read on what is going on in your life at present. It’s all there.

Your aura shows how true you are being to yourself. It also shows any lies that you are telling yourself.

There are different ways of looking at the aura, but in the new school of intuitive training, we look at seven layers to be exact. However, I might add that there are no rules about this. You can look at the aura in whichever way that you wish and that makes sense to you according to your truth.

Probably the most liberating realization that can come to people in an aura reading is that they do indeed have the freedom to release other people’s energy from their space and choose their own colors. They can own their spaces and begin to run their own truth.

Although traditionally the seven layers of the aura are depicted with the color spectrum in the ascending order (e.g. from red to violet) – those are not necessarily the colors we have there in reality. The colors that are there are the ones that you see, so take a look for yourself!

Here are the layers . . .

First layer – the physical layer. Contains information about your everyday life, your health and the body. It shows where the energy is set in your house and home.

Second layer – your emotional space. Contains information on the emotions that you are currently processing. Emotions are the body’s language, its way of communicating with you – do you allow your body its full range of expression?

Third layer – your willpower. It shows your actual energy levels and how you manage your energy. How your boundaries are doing. I look here for information on your economy / income / work and your relationship with money.

Fourth layer – affinity. This is the home of your self-image and shows your relationship with yourself and those around you. It speaks of self-love and what comes in-between you and the man / woman in the mirror.

Fifth layer – communication space. This layer contains information on how you communicate and who you communicate with. Are you telling the truth? If not, what is stopping you from doing so?

Sixth layer – creative layer. Also known as your clairvoyant or vision space. It contains information on how clearly you are able to see yourself and those around you. Are you envisioning the future you want to see or are you letting someone else occupy this space?

Seventh layer – dreams. It is the outermost layer and shows the picture that you present of yourself to the outside world, also known as your ‘valance’. Communication with beings typically happens through this layer.

If you have not yet had your aura looked at before perhaps you would consider trying an aura reading with me? Having your aura looked at isn’t just about receiving information – it is truly a healing. It is a spiritual snapshot of who you are right now!

© EssenceJoy Clairvoyance 2013

Photo: Photo Spirit page on Facebook / Album: Colours

8 Jun

Non-effort: create what you want with energywork

We all have dreams about what we want to have in our lives.

Some are small dreams that manifest easily, some are big dreams that can take more time and energy to manifest.

Some we let ourselves have and some we believe are ‘just dreams’.

Well, guess what, that notion of ‘just a dream’ is a lie! There is no such thing. There is no dream too big to make it happen.

However big or small: you can make it happen!

Of course, we must discern between a dream and a fantasy, but here I take as a basic premise that you already can tell these two apart.

A dream is a responsible vision. It is a creation that comes from an inspired spiritual source and it will benefit the whole of mankind. While a fantasy is ungrounded and ego-driven – it will only benefit the personality. It is but a ‘pipe dream’.

A true dream is pure inspiration from spirit. When you take steps to ground it into the everyday world it will inspire others to dream, too. So many people put their dreams aside because of other more ‘pressing’ concerns such as surviving or living someone else’s dreams and agendas. Some believe they are too old to manifest those lucid, most exciting dreams of their younger days. Again that is a lie people tell themselves, so that they don’t have to make those often uncomfortable changes that are necessary for the dream to become a reality.

A dream is your spirit’s way of communicating to you your next step. The only question is: are you ready?

Indeed, spirit communicates through images, pictures and visions. So realize that those day-dreams you have are not just passing fancy! You validate your spirit by living your dreams. What a joyous life that would be if everyone realized this.

So how do you make it happen?

You can do so by first having a clear vision. You know what it is that you want to see manifest in your everyday reality. Maybe it’s a new car, new house, new relationship, more freedom, more money, friends, the list goes on! Now you can go into effort and do everything you can to make it happen. You push and control things, people and events to make it happen. This isn’t very nice. Effort isn’t nice.

Or you could do energywork and hand this vision over to the Universe. This is very easy. You get into a meditative state, ground yourself, use your visualization skills to see the dream you have, put it into a rose and then simply hand it over to the Universe and let it all come to you! No effort, no trying. By doing so you will have taken the most important step – you have moved the energy. And the Universe will do all the work.

In the old male dominated paradigm, effort was the keyword of the day. It took effort, hard work, trying, pushing and controlling to make something happen. Nowadays a much lighter energy is moving in, namely the energy of ease. Can you have ‘easy’ yet?

Join my meditation class to unlock your visualization skills and learn to use energywork to create without effort.

Happy creating!

© EssenceJoy Clairvoyance 2013

photo: www.weheartit.com

27 May

Old vs. new

The old picture of a spiritual master is one of an Indian guru that meditates several hours a day in the lotus position, gives endless teaching classes / gatherings / sermons / lectures.

He has followers worshipping him and washing his feet, doing everything for him. He does not work himself, doesn’t earn a living through a 9-5 job. Does not earn his own money and certainly doesn’t even pay his own bills!

He spends most of his time out of body communing with the Divine. Then levitating in meditation and probably bilocating 50% of the time.

This individual, however wise, does not use a grounding cord.

Nowadays there is a new picture emerging and starting to find shelter and nurturing in people’s hearts. The picture that says: you are your own guru.

People no longer look to some wise guy who knows it all, instead they look within. They look for their own answers.

The moment you decide that your own answers are valuable and that you can have your own answers just like those gurus, you will have taken back your power to know for yourself. You will have owned your Crown chakra for yourself.

Owning your Crown means that now You get to be the boss, the king or the queen in your life. That it is your truth, your energy that gets to set the tone for your day.

So these days I’m seeing a whole new kind of spiritual master emerging. One who is grounded, honors and nurtures one’s own connection with the Supreme Being. One who does not depend on others for direction or answers. One who doesn’t need to lean on anyone since he owns what is his. He doesn’t need an entourage to feel important.

This person pays his own bills. Uses discount coupons in shops. He takes pleasure from being in body.

© EssenceJoy Clairvoyance 2013

photo: www.facebook.com / Flower Story’s album Tree Story

20 May

Permission to be a star

Just for a moment, consider your life as a movie and perhaps even a playful game.

With your amusement, just visualize that.

Now, take a look at who is running the show?

For the majority of people, the director of the movie that is their life, tends to be someone else.

From an early age, we are taught to give our Seniority away to others: parents, teachers, those popular ones, celebrities, gurus . . . the list goes on!

But what if you decided you are the star! That you get to direct your own movie and be the sole decision-maker of the direction that you wish to go?

In the moment of crucial decision-making, a lot of foreign energy can get in the way and exert its influence. It is invaluable to have access to your visualization skills and be able to take a look at who or what is influencing those decisions of yours and then clear those out.

If you are not used to making decisions for yourself, you will not have received much validation for stepping away from the crowd. Coming to a point where the choice is between what you want to do and what you are expected to do by the group can start a whole new growth period.

And yes – this takes courage.

This growth period, however, will come to and end and you will find your Certainty again. It just takes one small step at a time.

When you decide you have value, that you deserve to have what it is you want or choose to at least find out whether you do – magic happens. Now you may perhaps even consider placing yourself, your own energy, your uniqueness in the center of your own Universe!

See for yourself what happens when you do that.

Okay, I can tell you, many will resist this. You yourself will resist it at first. Your body will throw up reasons why you should once again hand over the reigns to someone else. But it will be incredibly healing for you. A whole new chapter of your life begins where you start to realize you were indeed the star all along!

So give yourself that permission and find out for yourself. If it helps even the least – you have my permission.

© EssenceJoy Clairvoyance 2013

photo: www.facebook.com / page: Flower Story

21 Feb

Magic is all around

The moment you decide you are no longer a victim of your circumstances, you step into the position of power.

It will all become clear when you change your perspective from “why is this happening to me?” to “I allowed this in some way – I can choose to change it”.

Magic happens in empowerment.

It may be that for whatever reason you can’t have this magic for yourself, so you prefer to think and believe that others are powerful. That only others can create effortlessly.

For those who don’t believe in magic, I would like to offer the following consideration: You, as a spirit, created this mock-up, this lifetime for yourself – You are that powerful! Just stop and look around you for a moment. Take a couple of deep breaths and realize this: magic is happening every second! Life is the magic. You created it and you can create much more than that!

Being aware is powerful. Do you want to just ‘stumble into’ your creations or do you want to create gracefully. Personally, I prefer graceful as that means if I want to, I can let go of my old creations. I can choose to create something new again rather than be stuck with an old creation because of someone else’s resistance to letting go.

With energywork tools such as grounding, circulating energies and blowing roses, you can begin to own your space and start to create in a more conscious way. Energywork makes a whole lot of sense to those who are willing to take responsibility for their own space!

©EssenceJoy Clairvoyance 2013

Photo: Flower Story’s Facebook page

11 Feb

Love yourself and all else will follow

Loving yourself is a great act of service not just to yourself, but also to all of mankind.

You heal yourself with self-love. Others will match this, so you become a healing for them, too.

Affinity is a fourth chakra energy. Located in the centre of your chest, this chakra is the home of the self-image, havingness and compassion. This is where the pictures about how you see yourself are collected – those are what determine your self-esteem.

Valuing yourself, your own energy – begins with you. If you don’t value yourself, no one else will go through the trouble. It is an inside job.

You know it’s time for a new self-image if you are constantly explaining or defending yourself to others. If you are constantly doing nice things for others and often end up completely drained without getting anything back.

Your energy is unique and your value is not up for a majority vote.

Placing your own energy at the center of your Universe is the greatest act of self-love. It is not selfish! When you get to know and learn to value your own unique energy you are giving others permission to do the same.

With tools such as meditation and visualization, you can heal the image you have of yourself and visualize a whole new you. The You who is perhaps gentler towards oneself, free from judgement, invalidation or criticism. So those toxic energies won’t have anything to stick to anymore should they try to seek you out.

Gentle meditation time is a healing act of self-love. You can learn to rest your awareness in the middle of your head, let go of expectations and simply watch your own energy. Get to know it, begin to value it. With a tool such as grounding you can let go and release any energy that is not you. This way you can have more of the most important energy in your space – your own.

As you gain awareness through grounded meditation you will naturally start to treat yourself with the respect, love and kindness you deserve. And yes: you CAN remove yourself from anything that does not feel good!

Your own energy may have been invalidated in the past, but now you can validate yourself. You can love every aspect of You and give yourself the permission to do what you want to do.

You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. ~Buddha

©EssenceJoy Clairvoyance 2013

Photo: Google