Life isn’t all about hard work, getting tasks done and meeting deadlines. Regular gentle downtime is needed to recover your energy levels and to nurture your body.
Here’s the thing, before you can really give to others, before you can truly show up 100% – you have to be able to also give to yourself. You have to feel deserving enough of your own kindness before you can truly give it to others. If you want wellness you have to put yourself more to centre of that giving and receiving spectrum. Balance opens the pathway for abundance to flow in.
Constantly giving of yourself, working hard and getting stuff done, without taking proper time to consider your body and your own needs you will end up depleted, worn out and with nothing left to give. This route might even take you to illness, because you have excluded your well-being from the picture.
On the other hand, if you take time to consider your own needs and fulfil those needs without regularly putting them on the bottom of your to-do-list, you will have more energy and vitality to move through the day with.
To begin with, self-appreciation is an energy to say hello to when considering giving to yourself. Think about how can you appreciate yourself more and be really kind to yourself right now? If people around you aren’t showing up for you or aren’t giving you the kindness you feel that you may need – you have to be that ‘people’ for yourself. By giving to yourself what you need you immediately balance out your inner masculine and feminine energies. Rather than waiting for someone else to come along and fulfil your needs, you can do it yourself. You can be your own hero.
Another point to consider is: who are you really creating for? Who do those mock-ups and dreams of yours actually belong to? Is the dream you are working hard for truly what you really want? Can you let yourself dream a brand new dream that you actually like and want to participate in wholeheartedly? Are you still trying to please one of your parents by holding down a job that you don’t even like?
To begin to create for yourself you have to take a very honest and close look at if you can actually have those things you say you want. Can you have what you say it is that you want?
The magic of creating those things for yourself that you say you want begins with feeling good about yourself. And feeling good about yourself and feeling loved starts with you, yourself. It’s not something you get from outside of you or the others around you. You have to see yourself as worthy and deserving first, compliment yourself, and then the Universe will send you people who will validate that choice and will compliment you even more. On the other hand, if you are in judgement about yourself – you will meet plenty of people who will be in judgement about you, as well. You get to choose which way you want to go. You get to set the energy. Start by deciding right now that you are eternally lovable and shower yourself with kind compliments. You may even visualize that right now.
So go ahead and ask yourself this right now: what is it that your body, your senses, your feelings and your spirit are yearning for right now? See it! Feel it! Sense it! Know it! And then go ahead and give that to yourself. Right now. No, don’t wait until tomorrow – do it now!
While you are pondering over this worthwhile question, here’s a handy list to consider …
- Nurturing little daytime naps
- Reading a good book
- Having raw cacao-based hot chocolate
- Eating organic food – your body will be very grateful for this
- Taking some time off from busy work-life
- A walk through nature
- Caring for houseplants
- A holiday by the sea or in the forest
- Unstructured creative time such as painting, playing music, writing or many other creative outlets. Dedicating time to those creative projects are nurturing for you
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