Valentine’s Day is here and we are once again looking at the notion of romantic love in our lives and perhaps secretly fantasizing about having that special someone coming along and wiping us off our feet.
I imagine that like most people you want to have that wonderful, healthy and close soul mate relationship along with joyous, meaningful and supportive friendships. In fact, I’m sure you’d like all of your relationships to reflect those qualities. You probably also want to have constant financial security, a career that you enjoy, a thriving business and just a whole bunch of fun? If that describes you, then start by taking a very close look at the relationship you have with yourself to begin with!
All relationships you have with others and your creations are really a reflection of the relationship you have with yourself. Do you feel worthy of your own love? You create your relationships and mock-ups from that space of self love.
So are you treating yourself in a worthy manner? Are you being your own best friend or are you still treating yourself the way that perhaps your parents treated you? The way your schoolmates treated you? Are you pushing yourself too hard, being your own worst critic and berating yourself for imperfections that only exist in your imagination? Do you punish yourself harshly when you make a mistake or do you treat yourself with gentleness? Are you beating yourself up and whacking yourself for not being able to solve other people’s issues for them?
If you want to manifest a loving soul mate relationship or just have loving, kind and gentle relationships in general you’ve got to be your own best friend first. You may be very compassionate towards everyone else, but if it doesn’t include you – it is incomplete. You’ve got to be compassionate towards yourself in order to have the life that you want. Self love is the key to abundance.
Have you based your value on how much you are doing for others, how much you are running around for them and entertaining them? Maybe it’s time to let that picture go and instead realize you are a worthy Child of God, your value is infinite and you are already loved unconditionally simply because you are here.
Realize that you are a unique creature in all of creation that has never been before and never will be again in the same way. What fits for one may not fit for another. You’ve got to listen very closely to your own intuition to see what is really meant for you in life. And remember that this may be very different from the expectations of those around you.
This Valentine’s Day realize that loving others begins with you loving yourself. The more you can love yourself, the more lovable you will become to others and the more you will also attract healthy relationships to your side that respect who you are.
A good place to start loving yourself is by being gentler with yourself. You might want to ground any invalidating energy from your space and let go of any toxic relationships in order to create the life that you actually want for yourself. Consider this: who could you be healing by holding yourself back from truly giving to yourself?
Self love or Affinity is an energy that belongs to the fourth chakra, which is a spinning wheel of energy located in the center of your chest. It is also known as the heart chakra. Having a healthy and loving relationship with yourself is the foundation for everything else in your life. It is how you heal yourself and others as well as how well you relate to your body.
Loving those parts of yourself that you may have judged as unlovable in the past you integrate them back to yourself – you call back your energy. This is truly the pillar of true happiness, well-being and a sense of wholeness. In that state you realize that nothing needs to be fixed or changed, it just needs your love and acceptance.
So this Valentine’s Day step out of competition with yourself and give yourself the best gift ever: self love. Pamper yourself and treat yourself to all those wonderful gifts you want and that same energy will also spread around to others and heal them, too – effortlessly.
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